Anyone here survivors of narcissist abuse?

[Corina_J]

If answering triggers you, please do not put yourself through that. I'm currently detoxing from narc abuse and I'm looking for advice from other survivors on how to make it through. This is the toughest shyt I've ever experienced in my entire life! I'd sure appreciate any help/advice/tips/warnings etc anyone is willing to give. Thanks.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Know that you’re not at fault. It’s the narcissist that is. Narcissists will try charm, but are quick to go on the attack, when they don’t get things their way.

They also try to lie, deny, put all the blame on you, they’re also known to gaslight.

Getting to the point where we realize someone can only keep treating us bad if we let them is the first step. Not responding when they try reaching out again and again. Not only do narcissists not make good partners they don’t make for good friends either.

[Corina_J]

Thank you. I agree. And I'm trying. It's been an extremely difficult venture.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

It can be… even narcissists can have good qualities, good moments… unfortunately usually the bad outweighs the good

[Corina_J]

Yes, that is true.

[Anonymous]

i been in an emotionally and mentally abusive relationship and currently going through it. Demi has been abusive to me. I been with her for over 5 years and she constantly cheats and has her family and friends covering it up even though her friends family and the people she's cheating on me with know all about me. she forces her family and friends and the people she's cheating on me with sign nondisclosure agreements. if i knew how to take her pr team and her bastard manager scooter to court and get legal action brought against them i would

[Opinion Owner]

every time she cheats it gets worse as does her emotional and mental abuse. and right now currently there's been nothing but ongoing constant fighting nonstop and yesterday she came on here, tiktok, another app which she and i both know of which i'm not saying, and on instagram instigating and provoking trying to get a rise out of me and stir the pot stir trouble up. her abuse is relentless

[Opinion Owner]

she says things and does things that has me breaking down in tears crying waking up at 3am with massive anxiety and panic attacks and worse. all i been wanting is some form of justice to expose her and her family and friends and that bastard scooter for all the hell they been putting me through. to expose her to her rotten psychotic fans and to get some sort of justice out of this whole fucked up situation. 5 years and it's getting worse each time and now it's at one of it's worst times and one of the worst nonstop fighting yet

[Opinion Owner]

i wish i could take some sort of legal action against all of them

[Corina_J]

Damn, I'm so sorry you're enduring this. I do hope you can find a way to get out n heal.

[Guy13]

I was around it for about 3 years then escaped...

[Corina_J]

Glad you got out. How did you manage to disconnect? And what things did you do to heal?

[Guy13]

Grey Stoning, leaving an area or state with job, and changing all my identity/contact information.

[mandyfire98]

Yes, and it's incredibly tough. The most important thing is to stay away. No contact at all. That person has to basically vanish completely from your life. Try to surround yourself with either family or friends. Try to keep your mind on other things. Start a new hobby if you have to. Keep busy. Do not be afraid to ask for help. It gets better. I promise you. At some point it'll be so far in your rear view.

[Corina_J]

Thank you. I have much to do for my healing and I know it will be a long process.

[mandyfire98]

It absolutely takes time. Just remember, keep your mind focused on other things. Our minds sometimes go against us. Just distract yourself on things and after a while the memory will just be nothing but a lesson you learn. You'll be free to live in the present and for the future. The past won't matter.

[Corina_J]

Yes, I agree.

[dustybiker]

Yes. To say it's rough is an incredible understatement.

[Corina_J]

Yes, it is. May I ask how you managed your healing journey?

[dustybiker]

Could probably say I’m still in it. We had a bad case. 22 months+ luckily lots of witnesses which helped, but they had their own damage too.

[Corina_J]

Oof. Well, I hope you'll be able to get out. I know it's hard.

[dustybiker]

Thank you. I wish the same for you.

[Corina_J]

Thank you