If a homemaker cheats, they gets nothing. So if a breadwinner cheats, shouldn’t they give everything?

[Anonymous]

Following the logic that if someone who works hard to take care of the house and kids (and potentially ruins her (if it’s a woman) body having them) why would she only get half if he’s the one to cheat? If you follow the logic, he should give everything if he cheats.

I’m not a person who would ever perform infidelity, nor do I believe my boyfriend would. But I was thinking about it and people are very bitter but not at all inconsistent. In fact a lot of the people who are bitter don’t believe the breadwinner should give anything even if they’re the one that cheats or initiates divorce… yet those same people often believe in traditional roles where the woman stays home as the homemaker. (Which I also believe in)

[Anonymous]

There are a couple of problems with what you've written here.

First, very few men believe the breadwinner should not give anything in divorce. I'm sure some do, but the majority don't.

And it's never the case that the homemaker gets nothing in divorce is she cheats. That just doesn't happen. She may get less than she would if she didn't cheat, but no judge is going to award her nothing. It's far more likely she'll still get half of the assets.

[Asker]

So you think it should be 50-50

[Opinion Owner]

Sometimes, but it depends on multiple factors.

[Asker]

Like what

[Opinion Owner]

Why did she cheat?

Was she a serial cheater or was it a one-time thing?

Was he a good husband or not?

Was she a good wife or not (other than her infidelity)?

Does she have an education so she can earn money after divorce?

Did she forgo a career for years so she could be home taking care of their children?

There are lots of other considerations, but those are a few examples.

[Asker]

So if he cheats a lot he should give 100%?

[Opinion Owner]

No, I didn't say that. Again, it depends on multiple factors.

[Asker]

But if he cheated multiple times why would he get half while if she did she gets nothing?

[Opinion Owner]

Where did I say if she cheats she gets nothing?

[Asker]

You said it depends if she’s a serial cheater

[Opinion Owner]

Did I say if she's a serial cheater she should get nothing? I get the distinct impression you are not reading what I wrote.

[Asker]

So she gets half

[Opinion Owner]

I've answered all these questions already. Go back and read what I already wrote.

[Asker]

Why do those things matter if she’s been putting in energy and effort into the home and kids?
Are you saying there’s times when she should get more than half then and the man should get less?

[Pegases]

In a perfect world yes, there would be repercussions for stepping out on your marriage. But divorce laws are already so skewed in women's favor that I'm just not a fan of anything that makes it worst for men. I see so many men get essentially raped by the court system even when they didn't step out of the marriage, because women are often assumed to be the victims. The goal initially was to protect women, but a lot of women today unfortunately leverage that to exploit unsuspecting men.

[Astarlessnightsky]

I don't get it, who gets what when cheating?

[Asker]

The breadwinner gives 50 to the Homemaker of the breadwinner cheats… but some people may say the homemaker deserves nothing if the homemaker cheats. Why wouldn’t the homemaker get 50? Or else why wouldn’t the homemaker get 100% if the breadwinner cheats (if you believe the homemaker deserves 0 for cheating)

[Anonymous]

Abaolutely they should.

[Anonymous]

Not sure what you are asking?

[Asker]

If a breadwinner cheats, they give 50/50
If a homemaker cheats, they get nothing
So why wouldn’t the breadwinner give everything if they cheat?
My point is the 50/50 is consistent regardless of who performs infidelity.

[Opinion Owner]

Good question, I think the laws are starting to change.