I said horrible things to my ex girlfriend when we broke up, how can I fix it without giving a message that we can be together again?
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I’d contact her, give her an apology, and give her proper closure.
I’d make it clear that I don’t have any intentions of getting back together and that I believe we should still go out separate ways, but I wanted her to know I didn’t mean what I said.
A similar thing happened to me. One of my ex girlfriends hurt me pretty bad and I broke up with her over it. But, I feel like I was overly harsh. I’ve been blocked, but I wish I could have ended things on a better note. I still care about her, in a platonic way, and it saddens me that things ended the way that it did. I was too hard on her. And, that’s one of my life’s regrets. I hope she is doing well.0
Try picking up a phone and calling her, make your apologies, wish her the best and good bye10
But for what it's worth, apologise.0
What Girls & Guys Said
Time. She don’t want to see you. Irrationality and guilt is for you to bear for about six months. Don’t throw that reminder on her without time for her to grieve and numb her emotional to the pain from seeing your face.
Deaf 🧏♀️ ears 👂.
Make everything about you, why don’t ya.0
by not saying it to the next girl you get involved with. It's over for the other one.10
You're better off leaving that behind you. Trying to "fix" it will either send the wrong message or will end in failure.0
Let it go.
The absolute single best piece of advice you can follow is to give her space and time. And after that, give yourself attention, as in find out who you are and what you need. Self care is important. And seriously don’t contact her. Like at all.0
With an honest apology, but wait a little while. Maybe text and say you regret that and you need some time to give the apology you thinks she deserves. That also buys you some de escalation time. Multitask and also with time, she may differentiate those two things in a way she probably won't if tou just brike up. But send that text and just you feel like shit and whatever has happended, you want her to be ok. Suicidiality can pop outta niwhere in these types of situations.0
Go talk to her directly , without a text or message , because she would appreciate the effort you took , say sorry about your behavior , say you miss her , it would break the ice , also tell her , i don't know how much time we have together in the future , but now at this moment the only person I want to be with is you0
Apologize for what you said and give her time. While that doesn't guarantee that you'll get back together, it does give her the time that she needs to understand how you feel, how she feels, and decide for herself what she wants to do. In this situation, you owe her that much.0
We're men. We've all said horrible things to our girlfriends and exes. Just apologize and move on. No further explanation needed unless you want her back0
Write her a letter and mail it. Acknowledge what you did wrong and that it wasn't her fault. Sincerely wish her the best in her future.10
Forget she ever existed or don't and keep making it worse.0
Learn the Spanish guitar and seduce her like anything. Like this guy 🎸😃0
There is nothing to fix. She is your ex and you wanted to harm her emotionally.0
Please leave her alone.10
Do you low key want to get back with her?0
Write'r a letter.0
You could say something like this.
This is not me wanting to get back together, so this is nothing like that. But i got something on my mind that bothers me about something i have done. I wish to speak my part and expect nothing other then to have said it to you and maybe onloading my burden a bit. I hope you can hear me out to the end because i feel this is so important to say. I was hurt, frustrated and angry. It sounds like an excuse but it really is not. I was weak in a moment i should have been strong and i am so sorry. Just because we broke up and it was painful to me, and just because we won't get together again don't give me any rights to hurt you and keep the hurt alive in our memories of a hurtful situation. Just because we can't be together again don't mean it was all terrible. Because we had so much fun, and shared so many great moment's together, it gives pain to think that in a moment of weakens i have taited a time of my life that should me remembered as a moment of joy and growth. You are amazing, you are fantastic, you have given a part of my life great joy and i know for a fact you will continue being amazing and you will bring someone else great joy and memories. I did not mean the things i said. They came from hurt and pride and should not have been said. I failed myself and i fails you. I don't expect to be forgiven. But i do hope by telling you how sorry i am for these words i said in a weak moment, i hope it will give you some peace.