Girls, Recent Break up and ex girlfriend confusing me severely?

[Zer047]

me (37) and my girlfriend (46) are currently separated/broken up not sure how to put it exactly cuz no definites have been said , I just seriously confused by her behavior, this started as a minor disagreement we have over a text Convo one evening before bed but she just went wild with it and said she needed a couple days so I respected that didn't hear from her so I tried to contact twice by text and then a call and she got back to me and said she wasn't ready to talk and to back off , was tough to hear but that's exactly what I did and then I wake up to a message at 4am a paragraph long about things that's happened between us in the past and basically she needs some time and needs to focus on her kids which I totally understand but the message was very indecisive one line she saying how horrible iam then the next saying she's so in love with me and doesn't want me to think otherwise cuz she needs to focus on her kids and herself, a comment she made that did hurt and I don't agree with is she said I'm somewhat obsessive for trying to contact her this confuses me cuz 5 days prior to this we had Convo about me working on initiating convos first which I agreed I need to work on and she flipped out on me about not contacting her enough, after I replied to this current long message she called me and we talked for over half an hour, in which she went over everything again and told me how in love with me she is and even went on to discuss how attracted she is to me , I mean she just covered so many things like that and then would switch to saying we need to be apart but she doesn't want me out of her life , I'm just confused, she never said it's over or anything like that, I'm just curious from a girls perspective why she might be acting so indecisive, we are not speaking as it seems apparent she wants space, we've been together over 7 years and she is also dealing with stress from her kids, family members and work so sorry I know this ran very long.

[Orange85]

I’ve been in situations like this and did everything to figure out whAt to do… what the future holds for us… even googled all kinds of things. But no one can answer your question…. You will have to wait. Let her reach out. Best thing u can do is take time for yourself. Focus on your life. Go out with friends find a show on Netflix walk your dog for an hour lol. That will make you feel better than worrying and waiting for her. It’s sooo hard but don’t let her emotions consume your emotions

[Zer047]

Thank you I appreciate your advice I understand it's definitely a hard question thanks again for helping