Called my ex (dumper) last night, we talked for an hour and he even put me on speaker with his sister. (LDR was cause of breakup) Is this a good sign?

[Anonymous]

30 days no contact. So I called him. We broke up due to long distance so nothing bad. I'm not looking to get back together today but I would like the option to be there.

He answered on the second ring and we talked like nothing had changed in the last 30 days. Caught up on a lot. He even put me on speaker with his sister and we talked about some stuff and upcoming vacations etc.

I just want to know if this is a good sign of possible friendship/reconciliation.

Yes, very good sign

No

[Anonymous]

Even if it’s not you breaking up on bad terms, the situation is still the same and unless you have plans for it to change then reconciliation will inevitably lead to break up again. LDR is not meant to be long term, there has to be a silver lining for it to work.

[Asker]

You're right and that's exactly my thoughts. His reason for break up was that there wasn't a future since the long distance is basically set in stone for the time being i. e. no future plans of change. I guess I just really miss my best friend more than anything. I know it would hurt to see him date someone else, but I'm not sure crying myself to sleep every night now is healthy either.

[Opinion Owner]

Crying yourself to sleep every night, right now post-breakup, is normal. You are in pain. What wouldn’t be healthy is bottling your emotions and letting it build. 30 days is not a long time, even if it feels like it’s been forever, it’s still a pretty new breakup and you have to let yourself grieve it so that you can move on. Right now you are in no place to be his friend when you still love him and want a relationship, you’re only making it harder for yourself to let go and giving yourself false hope. If the distance is set in stone then the breakup needs to be as well. It’s going to be hard right now, that just comes with the territory and at the moment it’s still been less time apart than you spent together. It takes time.

[DubiousIntentions]

This is just my opinion, but a LDR is a total waste of time.

[strateguy632]

1st!