Are changing up plans with someone equivalent to breaking your word/promise to them?

[Anonymous]

Like you’re not dropping the plans altogether, you just may change the day or time of the plans because something came up, you’re sick etc vs when you break your word or promise, you’ll drop the plans altogether and not even try to figure out something to make sure the plans still happen even if that means you have to switch up things within the plan.

[Anonymous]

Well, are you making promises? It’s one thing to make a plan, can’t follow through and try to reschedule, as adults we know shit happens. But if you’re like “so and so I promise we will get together this Friday!”, then cancel it even if you reschedule you broke your promise. Just don’t take it to that level when making plans or whatever.

[Asker]

Well not this exactly. I planned to bring my son over to his dad so he could see him, I drive, but my car is in the shop currently so I was gonna take him over there in a Uber. His dad would have came to see him or came to get him but his dads ankle is currently healing from being broke. When I made the plans, I didn’t consider the fact that I never strapped in a car seat without his base, which is in my car. In the Uber I would have to use the seatbelt which I never learned how to use. So I told him I needed to watch instruction videos on how to do it for a day or two. My car isn’t getting out the shop anytime soon. So I said once I feel more secure and confident in doing that, so that I’m sure he’s safe, secure and locked in, I’ll bring him over. Once again I said I only needed a day or two. I didn’t cancel the plans altogether, I just had to decide something around it for the safety of our son, but he got upset with me and said I was making excuses but I truly wasn’t I’m genuinely worried about the safety of our son.

[Opinion Owner]

Gotcha. Well it doesn’t sound like you made any promises, so there isn’t one to break. But aside from that, you shouldn’t be feeling so guilty over this situation and maybe you need to start recognizing what sort of man you’re dealing with. You’re reason for not taking your son to him is super valid, and it’s ridiculous for you to let him to shame you over it. My guess is that this is his personality trait though, being a narcissist and pointing fingers. As a mother the only reaction that would get out of me is an eye roll, now and forever. Clearly his son safety isn’t of utmost importance and he needs to grow up.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

No, but constantly doing it would piss me off.