Suppose you haven't seen your ex in 5 years. You have gotten over them, How would you handle running into them out of nowhere in a public place?

[Paradisepup36390]

[Anonymous]

Really depends on which one. Of all my ex gfs there is really is only one I hoped to run into again. Reason being I know she harbors deep guilt about something and has her done her best to forget about it. But if she saw me again I know it would bother her and she doesn’t deserve to forget about she did.

As for the rest if I ever see them again it would be too They were ALL bad. Everyone of them did something fundamentally horrible at the end. I have never had a “sad but understandable” break up in my life where there was mutual respect. Never.

A few years ago I saw one at a 5K race/walk event (I hadn’t seen her 5 years). She used me as a “placeholder” when we dated until something better came along. A get a deep feeling of hatred/rage about what she did to me. I want nothing to do with her

She was about 20 yards in front of me and cuddling with some other guy. I saw her and hit she didn’t see me thank God. I also had a full beard at the time and when I dated her I was always clean shaven. Given it was 5 years and my beard I was less recognizable. But it didn’t make my day seeing her there. That’s for sure.

[Paradisepup36390]

That sounds rough. The bachelor life might be a better move for you if you dealt with that much heartbreak. No Stress, No Mess.

[Opinion Owner]

Well one life lesson is if you have a bad gut feeling trust it. I tried to be happy go lucky and sets you up to get blinded. It may be depressing knowing that the ugly is the truth. But once you accept that you make better decisions to protect yourself.

[Redstang88]

I’d be thrilled to see her, it would be nice to know how she made out. Even though things didn’t work out I’ll always care about her and hope she’s doing well

[SueShe]

I don't have an ex since I am not interested in dating. However, if this scenario came to happen, then I would simply pass by him and if he notices me, I would simply say "hi" and continue where I am planning to go. Nothing more, nothing less.

My opinion is that if you have an ex it is because there was a total lack of communication and that our paths separated because of that. In this case, there is absolutely no need to renew any contact since I am not interested in talking to him.

That is the best way to avoid confrontation and uncomfortable situations.

[Paradisepup36390]

As somebody who doesn't date anymore, I'm in a similar boat to you and can appreciate your outsider perspective.

[annabananna]

I would just say hey how ya doing?

[annabananna]

Thanks for MHO

[jennifer_bloom]

I would avoid them out of an assumption they would prefer not to talk to me.

[Anonymous]

in 5 years if i haven't gotten over someone, i would seek out some therapy.. that's just insane.

anyway, i don't have an ex. but i do have guys who have wronged me and hurt me. if i saw them in public, i would pretend i never saw them and go about my day just like any other stranger because that's what they are now and it's best to accept that now once you have gone through the grieving process. i would also look to the right to see my partner and know i'm so happy it worked out with him and not them.

[Poppymarie]

It wouldn’t bother me and I could be civil. We’ve both moved on and accepted what happened between us. I probably wouldn’t think much about it after either.

[Paradisepup36390]

That's as healthy as it gets, like water under a bridge.

[Nikki1989]

I am close friends with most of my exes, so it wouldn't bother me.

[Paradisepup36390]

We isn't that wonderful. Keep it real then.

[TrueConfection]

I haven't seen him in 20 something years. If I were to run into him I'd probably get a good look at him and continue on my way. If my husband was with me, I wouldn't even look.

[shades777]

Hard to say honestly, 5 years a lot has changed and assuming they've grown as a person and still look physicality attractive or better, I probably say its good to see them, how ya been and it would end at that.

[ILoveAnime]

I'm pretending I didn't see them haha, sounds awkward

[DizzyDesii]

Around that year is the specific exes that I’d dodge. I’ll walk straight past like i didn't see them

[abc3643]

I haven't seen my ex in 30 years and I still haven't gotten over her.

[LiamJHayden]

I'd be cordial. I haven't had a relationship end on bad terms as of yet. In each we just did not work romantically long term.

[Sparkie460]

It depends on what terms we split up. If we're on good terms, I'd stop and say hi. Otherwise I'd keep walking like they don't exist

[Aairs]

I'd prefer to avoid such trauma. They were/are all highly abusive.

[bolverk]

Be polite - Nothing more. Keep the interaction as short as possible and still be polite.

[Anonymous]

I will just talk a while but then let go of him

[Ametrine98]

Hmnn well I'll smile at them

[Agape93]

@PrettyPriya knows how i feel

[Iron_Man]

Not sure

[Paradisepup36390]

That's okay. Sometimes, you know what to do best when you cross the bridge.

[Iron_Man]

Yes just say hi it’s innocent

[exitseven]

I would completely ignore them.

[TacosRAwesome]

Have a polite chat and move on.

[hiyamotherfers]

I'd probably wave but nothing more