He broke up because he feels pressured and stressed. I'm wondering if I can stay friends with him or cut him off?

[Anonymous]

Me and my ex partner has dated for 18 months. Best 18 months full of love and mutual respect nothing that i regret about this relationship or that i wouldn't do again. He's pursuing his studies in software engineering and he's usually a busy guy. When it's exam season we don't talk as much or meet and none of us had ever had a problem with it. For the last two weeks he has been busy with projects and he didn't give me a single sign that he's burnt-out. Two days ago he started being cold and asked to break up saying he feels so pressured and wants to have a successful career and make his parents proud and his brain doesn't allow him to be in a relationship because he wants to do everything perfectly and give me the love and care i deserve. He's fully aware of what extent I'll go for him but he doesn't want me to live that way nor make me sad. What's paining me is that we are the right people for each other everyone saw that and we did it And i hope this is just the wrong time for us, he doesn't want to promise me anything and just live my life and he wants us both to do our absolute best. I'm really hurt, we're both aware with the fact that none of us will find the same love we gave to each other again. I'm wondering if i can stay friends with him or cut him off and if there's hope that one day we'll get back together in better circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Block his number and all social media accounts. The only thing he is stressed about is how to remove you from his life so he can pursue other girls.

He showed you his true character. I have done engineering myself and also have known batchmates who were under pressure to do well but none of them broke up with their girlfriend. In fact, all went on to marry their girl. I wasn’t dating on college but if I did, pressure of studies would have never been a reason to quit a relationship.

Keep yourself busy and go out with your friends. Hell even make new male friends. Only then you will see the larger picture. You’re young to be emotionally strong but your future self will thank you if you cut off this trash bag and work on yourself and your career/studies.

The right man will always stay! That’s how you will know! Take care and promise yourself you will be happy and won’t feel anxious or cry over this jerk.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I think you have dodged a bullet. You might not see it right now, but you will.

[Asker]

Why is that?
Do you think i should go with no contact?

[Iron_Man]

Typical lame duck excuse a lie that has nothing to do with you, even military people get married

[Danny_dan92]

Not ready that simple

[Pterodon]

No you can’t.

[In_Trance]

He wants to rail other girls

[Anonymous]

thats up to you scooby doo