Girls suffer immediately after a breakup, guys after some time has passed. True or false?

[blunty]

[ohsheeT]

This is my belief we start going out with somebody everything's great 6 months down the road you break up and your heart broken you're angry and within a couple of weeks 3 weeks maybe a month you know you don't have that pain anymore


Then there are times where you meet somebody same thing you start going out but you can feel them deeper we all have an energy inside of us and when those two Energies fall in love with each other it changes everything the 6 months a year down the road you break up except for with this breakup you can't eat you can't sleep you can't think you're depressed you just want to lay around your body hurts everything is just miserable and sometimes it's really hard to get through it and then day after day after day after day after day you're going what is going on this is not like me I can't even function it's like there's something that has taken over your body and that's why I call it energy your energy is your teacher is your guide it's who you truly are our body is our Temple and houses something very special it protects something very special that is our soul or spirit and our energy our energy is our Guiding Light it is who we truly are and when two Energies fall in love together it's more powerful than you falling in love because when you break up with somebody your Energy's with you it's not going to see them anymore it's not going to talk to them anymore it Mourns it Mourns it hurts so bad you can tell the difference between when you break up with somebody and your energy breaks up with somebody it's a whole different world both men and women feel it immediately probably more women than men because more women are into it relationships deeper sometimes there's more players with guys so they don't care they just let it go anyway that was their plan anyway so they don't hurt most of them but some guys do but it's because of energy you have to understand you have actually you have two brains in your body I don't know if you know that or not but when our temple with our body falls to the ground it's our energy that gathers up everything and takes it wherever we go from there it is very powerful if you know anything about energy or your energy you know exactly what I mean

[OfMiceandMen]

I think guys don't show how it really impacts us immediately afterwards, because we try to maintain our composure, so its not accurate to say we don't suffer right away.

We tend to hold it in till we are out of sight, out of mind, and then it hits us.

[Anonymous]

From my personal experience i find it true. I always suffer greatly at first and i find that men don’t show that at all BUT once i move on and get better i find men are always texting or trying to connect again. It doesn’t hit them at first only later. I think a lot of men are happy to break up at first but then they end up missing certain things.

[FreyaRed]

Not in case of my first love.
I suffered in relationship, so I was already done with my emotional side when I walked away. My ex started to suffer immediately as he recognized I'm being serious with breakup. His crocodile tears, dishonest apologies and empty promises didn't bother me anymore

[Pinay_ako]

The one who loved more is the one who suffers most.

[OlderAndWiser]

Whether the statement is true or false. . . why does it matter? If you hurt, you hurt!

[MountAverage]

No, what's true in general is that men tend to take longer to get over someone and move on, but that seems to be mostly true because women tend to emotionally get over their partner before they break up, which is then why they break up. If a guy breaks up with a woman and she's still very into him, then obviously it will take her longer too to get over him.
But we need to be very careful with these generalizations. They have statistical significance, but they are pretty much meaningless for you or me or anyone in regards to their individual relationship experiences.

[Friendlybro79]

@MountAverage is this your anecdotal opinion? You are saying there is statistical significance. What does that mean to you and do you have statistical evidence to share.

(For ex statistical significance meaning this is true 90% of the time)

[MountAverage]

No, it is not. Otherwise I wouldn't be talking about statistical significance, would I?

And by statisical significance I mean that when looking at large populations, these tendencies can be observed. It's been a while since my social psychology and sociology courses, but we did look at studies that that showed these tendencies.

Why 90 %?

[Friendlybro79]

Why would I ask if you're being anecdotal vs statistically significant? Because you didn't source anything statistical and because I don't know you. Do you take the word of everyone you interact with on the internet? Many people say things like they're matter of fact and don't have receipts to prove their statement. I'd like to give benefit of the doubt that you can source a study since you brought it up. I'm also genuinely interested in the data that you're referencing.

Why 90% I was just throwing any number out as an example. No reason in particular.

[SolitarySolace]

False, I’m still not over my ex after she cheated on me and that was almost 9 years ago. I’ve been single ever sense. Turned down 4 women who were interested because I wasn’t. I’m still very picky about who I want to end up with someday. Which means I probably will end up alone like my coworker who is almost 60 with no wife or kids.

[EricSummer]

This is unfortunate. You got burned early on, but you can still turn it around. I suggest you see a psychologist about this.
Four women is a great number. Maybe still contact one if she is still free...

[SolitarySolace]

I see a counselor and he’s been saying that I’ve been doing fine.

They’re all either with someone new or have moved out of the state. Not worth my time.

[BlackJeep]

I think there's some truth there. Girls talk about relationships with all their friends and can talk it out and get supported. Guys kinda suffer in silence and think about it until the feeling goes away. It's obviously not always the case because every breakup is different but I think its more true than false

[Blueeyes81]

I think its whoever got dumped suffer immediately. But I can see this to an extent. Girlfriends tend to want all their guys spare time. It can be refreshing to have your spare time back and to do the things you want. But after time it wears off and you begin to miss what you had. But each person is different.

[MrOracle]

Generally, the person who was most committed and invested in the relationship is the one who has the hardest time when it ends - gender is largely irrelevant.

[GOLDFISH_smile]

The harder it is for you to recognize and process your emotions, the longer it will take for you to fully feel them. So, in general, yeah it may take men longer than women to start the grieving process.

[molonski2]

False , in my view women suffer more overall , far more emotional in view of these kinds of actions , men can generally recover quicker , even if they suffer at all , women hang onto things for a VERY long time , never ever forget.

[BoopBoopBeep]

What are saying is "after some time" here? Like a couple hours? A day? A year from now?

Yeah, probably, haha no... respectively.

[Anonymous]

True in sense. Guys can take longer to get over a breakup and some never do. Because women live in the moment and guys live long term. A woman can love a man, even deeply. Until she sees another man that she FEELS loves her more. This is a big reason why it's typically feast or famine when a woman meets a guy. The guy KNOWS that she's only going to be interested until she's not. And he may have very little control over that.

[mobiusforniner]

No. I've known a girl who wasn't over me even after two years from breaking up.

For me personally it took me a year in extreme cases, only a week in others.

Everyone is different.

[genericname85]

who suffers immediately after breakup is usually the person who got broken up with. cause obviously the person who initiated the breakup was already over the relationship at that point while the other was not.

[juene]

True 💯

[Nikki1989]

False. Some people handle break-ups well and move on with their life, while some people crumble and spend the rest of their existence feeling miserable.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I don't suffer at all. She either doesn't want me and can go fuck herself, or I don't want her. Either way I win

[WanderingLoveWizard]

(It does suck having to wait however long for pussy again though)

[LovingLoverReturned]

You should call yourself, wanderingSexWizard .. you didn't love. It's not something you can automatically switch off. I would bet you are on the spectrum of cluster B... feelings of emptiness

[LovingLoverReturned]

I'm not trying to insult you though. I'm merely stating facts. It would be unfortunate if you were offended.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

@LovingLoverReturned WonderingSexWizard is a badass name. I wish I could change it

[WanderingLoveWizard]

@LovingLoverReturned
And I did love deeply at one point, then she died and my heart went with her

[LovingLoverReturned]

I see 🤔

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Do you?

[LovingLoverReturned]

Yes you only cared about one women and she was prematurely taken from you

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Yeah you do. Sorry

[Mangospacho]

It all depends on who is breaking up with who. If the guy is breaking up with the girl, then of course the girl is going to suffer immediately. If it’s the other way around then the guy is going to suffer immediately

[sheenagwapa]

i give my sll when it comes to love so if it ends i don't really suffer because that's already my all

[Friendlybro79]

False. Why because not every woman or every man can be generalized like this. I'm so confused as to why so many people ask questions like this.

[Anonymous]

False. There are no gender based differences with this. It's about who was the dumper and who was the dumpee, and the circumstances of the relationship and the breakup.

[strateguy632]

false, sad that moment, but move to next one afternoon later.