If someone breaks up with you, do they really love you?

[Anonymous]

If your SO breaks up with you, would you trust them again to give them a second chance or feel that they don't really love you?

Yes

No

Explain

[DaveJord]

If they break up with me, then try to get back together with me... I mean yes i might go with it. But it would be really hard for them to get the same level of trust back that could of had or did have before.

So, see I have loved all the woman I have been with, but love is a fleeting thing, and when it is gone it is really hard to get back.

So I will be honest, when someone had tried to get back with me... it really just came down to the sex for me. If was a really good in sex department I would entertain the possibilities... a guy will put up with a reasonable amount of bullshit for good sex. But honestly even the sex was not as good as it was before for me, because the emotional bound was gone. The bases of the a strong emotional bound with a woman is trust... and once you lose faith in your trust for them... it really hard to get back to even having good sex.

But don't get it twisted, the love or the foundation we initially built together was real, and love was part of that process.

[Spade_01]

Depends on the reason for break up. At times, there are more important things at stake than 'love'. For example, family conditions and pressure, career and the most unnoticed one being the case where the love is indeed present in the relationship but the misunderstandings, trust issues, subconscious manipulation (and other sorts of mental issues) makes your mental health and well being worse at the cost of 'love'.

In such cases, it's better to part ways than destroying yourself further.

[Asker]

Thank you for your well thought out and thorough answer!

[Spade_01]

You're welcome!

[provokeesmokee]

I recently broke up with my first girlfriend and, if not for some specific and fundamental incompatabilities, I would give her a second chance after she grows more into herself.

However, generally I don't give second chances after a break up. I move on.

In my ex bfs cases, I did not love them by the time I left them. My first cheated on me, my second was a complete manchild.

But my exgf I broke up with because, while I still love her, I realized she wasn't the one for me. But she grew so much in our short time together and learned more about what she likes - so I want her to find someone who can give her those things. I recognize I'm not that person, but we can be great friends instead of dissatisfied girlfriends.

[definitelyNotHer]

It depends on the background of your relationship. I gave my ex a second chance after he did that and it was the worst mistake of my life. Think critically about the relationship and understand that when someone breaks up with you, most of the time when they say it's because they love you, they're just trying to let you down easy and letting them back and is bad for both of you.

[Paris13]

I dumped My Ex. I don't Think He could Trust me but I feel I had Good Reason. Trust is the Key Word... xx

[Paris13]

I still Love him. xx

[Flower7]

If they break up with their partner because the partner was cheating, they could still be in love with the person. But if choosing to break up due to lack of interest, they don’t truly care about the person.

[abc3643]

The answer is No and anyone who votes differently doesn't understand love. Period!

[Nikki1989]

Couples in love don't break up with each other.

[Asker]

Agree!

[Ms_Facesitter]

Well not anymore. Sometimes they do, but it's not healthy to be with you anymore, that happens too.

[LiamJHayden]

Sometime love means letting go of someone when you do not work as a couple.

[BlackJeep]

If they really love you they work it out.