What to do I am lost?

Question

Me M (28) broke up with my girlfriend F (26) 3 days ago after 3 year relationship. We broke up on mutual agreement because she said she doesn't have feelings for me anymore only attachment. I said I still got feelings for her but she still wanted to split ways. She hugged me and just said that she is sorry. Told me we can still be friends. I said I don't want that with the person I have still got feelings for.

When I came home I still couldn't believe what happened. I texted her maybe we missunderstood eachother and asked her maybe she would like to try again and she said that we already tried and texted me goodluck and goodbye.

I am writing this shaking and hurting like hell don't know what to do. Have many questions like:

Is she in pain like me?

Maybe there is another guy (told me no when we had the breakup talk)

I want her back but I know if I reach out to her so soon I will be needy. I have this thought that maybe if I don't write her for 30 days maybe she will write me. Yes this sounds desperate but I can't let go of her so fast.

Can't sleep even after hard nightshift I just worked. Any advice?

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

Take time and DO NOT CONTACT.

At least two weeks, just work on accepting this new reality.

Her experience isn't up to you, nor does it impact your processing or recovery. But yes, she's likely feeling pain as well. While she no longer had feelings for you, she still had attachment with you, which is still something most folks need to grieve.

Just take time to grieve, keep yourself apart from her so you have time to heal, and focus on yourself for a while.

It's normal to feel a bit out of sorts after breaking up, but it does get better.

Don't try to blame, just do your best to process through how you feel and work towards healing.

HelpfulWoman · Accepted Answer

take the hint dude. and that you jump already to "another guy" being involved says it all!

artgorgeous · Accepted Answer

She found someone else. I had the same situation. Long time ago when I had one girlfriend, we were together like 6 months, she suddenly texted me and sent me into a friendzone. Later, about 1 or 2 weeks I found photos of her on the social network with some guy I never knew. So I blocked her and removed from everywhere. My advice - block her and forget her, move on. Focus on yourself, and your job and start dating other girls.