My ex-boyfriend, whom I broke up with very fondly, says he regrets it, but now there is someone I'm dating. What would you do?

[gayesblog]

Should I give my ex a second chance? But then would it be unfair for my current date?

[AviatorTom]

In relationships, it's best to take care of yourself first, then the others.

It's your decision. Do you want him back or would you prefer a relationship with your current dating partner? Only you can answer that. Whatever your decision, don't worry about offending anyone... you come first... and anyone who would have a meaningful relationship with you, knows that.

[Anonymous]

Please don't go back over what ifs and old feelings. It didn't work out for a reason, and now it's time to step forwards, not backwards. Did a similar mistake before. The comfort of finding again someone you still love doesn't last long. Also it's not worth the disappointment of when it inevitably turns back to shit. You will have to go through heartbreak again when you could have been over it by now if you didn't get back together. Maybe leave your current boyfriend if you feel like you still need to process your feelings but don't go back to the ex.

[BlackBeauty90]

@gayesblog - Of course it's unfair. It's also cheap, might as well advertise your "services" in the local classifieds as well.

When people break up it is OVER.

If you weren't sure - if you weren't over your ex - then you should've had some class and not gotten involved with the first guy who said hello to you.

[exitseven]

I guess you have to do what your heart tells you to do. I dated somebody for a few months. I really fell hard for this girl and suddenly she decides she wants to go back to her old boyfriend from high school. I was devastated and was angry for years after but 30 years later I sort of understand.

[gayesblog]

This was a really supportive message, thank you for your detailed explanation. :)

[exitseven]

😀😀😀

[OlderAndWiser]

Depends on why you broke up and how involved you are in the new relationship.

[slatyb]

How do you feel about the person you are seeing? It sounds like you aren't all that into them or you wouldn't be asking this. The other important question is "Why did you break up with your ex? What has changed that would indicate that it will be different the second time?"

[strawberrybaby3]

No do not give your ex boyfriend a second chance. There is a reason why you broke up with him. Do not cut off the perosn you are currently dating who you could potentially build a great relationship with for someone who you broke up with.

[provokeesmokee]

Keep dating your current partner.

If things don't work out and you and the ex are both still single, then you can choose to give him another chance, if you really want.

But frankly I wouldn't.

[TruthBeTold77]

Honestly if you still have feelings for your ex which I think you have then no it's not unfair to the current one infact you'd be doing him a favour.

[TruthBeTold77]

If you have feelings for someone then you shouldn't even be dating others. Either go be with the one you have feelings for or stay on your own and give yourself time to move on and heal before you move on the next. It's just selfish.

[caitycat21]

Why do you even have to ask this question? You’re clearly not over your ex if you’re dating rn but are still thinking about cheating on your current partner to be with them.

[Heey_taay1819]

Personally I wouldn’t just because if somebody was my ex then they are exactly that for a reason so no I wouldn’t do it especially if you have genuine feelings for the person your currently dating! 😊 but whatever you do decide to do just make sure your okay with that 💞

[sage2021]

I've been in that situation before. We went back, and it was the same old stuff. So we quit seeing each other again.

[teamvic]

Hmmm depends on a lot of things, the reason why y'all broke up. If you were happy with him, if you like this new guy

[lightbulb27]

Whats changed? Otherwise ssme thing as last time. Your call…

[jeffend888]

You're 27. You really don't have time to be going back in time. The time is now to find your life partner with whom you'll create a nuclear family. Every second counts for you right now.

[katiesmuff]

Sounds like a fuck up on your part that now you and only you can figure out what to do now!

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

My friend, I would stay with the current person you are dating.

[Friendlybro79]

If I break up that means it's over and I would never play that game with anyone. When I move on I move on.

[Twalli]

Tell your ex that you can't date him because you are dating someone else. If this relationship ends then you could try again.

[BigDog1989]

You could say then that you're technically cheating

[Guido]

Stay in your current relationship. There is a reason your ex is an ex.

[msc545]

Better the devil you know than the devil you don't know.

[love_conquers_lust]

He regrets your decision? Don’t look back.

[OddBeMe]

Why did you break up?