Would you care if any of your past exes got sick, got run over by a bus, went to the hospital, got disabled, terminally ill, or even died?

[TenderFantasy]

Just wondering.

Yes

No

Other

[Leapfrog00]

Two of them, I couldn't care if they were eaten by bears! My one ex left me on my wedding day to meet some guy in Indiana. She slept around on me more than once, and then her family was pure trash. None of them worked, they all knew how to get social security disability and what to tell the social security people to get it. Both of her parents, grandparents, 2 aunts, 2 uncles, all of her cousins, they were all on disability.

Then her mother was always "sick". Whatever you had, she had. I was in the hospital once for 2 weeks because I have horrible asthma. As soon as I went in, she told everyone she went into cardiac arrest. She did have a pacemaker but only because she weighs 300 lbs. and refuses to diet. Then her and my ex-girlfriend told everyone I ran her down with my car, so she could try to sue me. Then my ex-girlfriend got involved and tried to get more money out of me. I eventually files charges on the both of them for fraud. They almost went to prison, but apparently the law has a soft spot for trashy people with "health problems". yeah, I couldn't care less what happens to my ex.

Then my other ex-stole money from me all the time and would take my whole paycheck if I didn't watch how much money I gave her. I do have a rule now, I refuse to date any girl who thinks or knows they're attractive. They let it go to their head. I'm done with narcissists. Some people do care what happens to people, no matter how bad the person treated them. Not me. I have no sympathy for people who are disrespectful con-artists, liars, and thieves. You can forgive someone's actions, but that doesn't excuse them.

[TenderFantasy]

Sorry you went through that. I'd got bananas if that happend to me. I'd be out for blood lol, about the unfairness of it all.

[Leapfrog00]

Oh, well, thank you. I know, right! I would love to see someone match wits with them one day, but it seems that trash always wins. It seems a lot of people are like this, especially ones who know how to work the system to get money each month when there's nothing wrong with them.

I'm getting ready to publish a book series and I have a feeling they're going to come out of the woodwork to try to get their hands on any money I make, lol.

I'd love to see them piss off the wrong person one day and get theirs, lol. Thanks for the MHO :)

[getwiththepg]

Sheesh bro. Same thing happened with Kiefer Sutherland & Julia Roberts. She went off to Ireland with his best friend Jason Patric, also his co star on The Lost Boys (great movie by the way) on his wedding day.

[Sevenpointfive]

tthats agood bait. who didn't think of this

[worldscolide]

There are two ex's I'd be sad about. The rest I would not shed a tear.

[Paris13]

THREE RIGHT NOW. lol!!! xxoo

[molonski2]

Its frankly ludicrous and utterly selfish to have any answer other than YES , There should never be this black / white ideal of success , life is not like that , and if you have bad feelings , the issue and karma is with you.

Many years ago , I unwittingly went out with a fraudster for 2 years , she was a criminal , white collor criminal , she eventually got caught way beyond me , and went to jail for 9 months , I still felt for her , she was lucky it wasn't longer , she was then deported , its still okey to feel empathy , doesn't mean I want to see her , I dont.

[TenderFantasy]

Sorry but I disagree. I am ENTITLED to my feelings just like you are. I am just trying to play fair. If they don't care then why should I? And why should I get ANY KARMA for my feelings? Now THAT is ludicrous lol.

Yeah, I forgiving is a thing that is true, but some people have treated me real bad and you have NO idea so you really have no right to imply the things you have!

There's no KARMA in not caring. Lol.

[TenderFantasy]

I know you are just trying to hurt me because you and I butt heads a lot here lol. But the things I've said are all true. IT would be ludicrous (not to mention STUPID) to care about someone who doesn't give two shits about you. It's pointless not to mention impractical lol. I do hope your small brain can finally get it.

[abc3643]

I did have a short-term LDR girlfriend who was 9 years older than me. She died of lung cancer 17 years ago. I didn't know it until a few years later. I have since become FB friends with her daughters who I knew when they were kids. Now, one is almost 40 and the other is 42.

[Phoenix98]

Even though I downright loath one of them to hell and back I still wouldn't want anything to happen to any of them even that one. At the end the day they're still people and I don't want to see people hurt or killed, regardless of my feelings towards them.

There is only one individual I wouldn't mind getting killed but my exes are not this person.

[TenderFantasy]

Wow, big of you.

[Phoenix98]

Life is just to short.

[DizzyDesii]

Despite how much a few hurt me or I hurt them, I’d want to check on them. If i used to love you then I still care about your well being

[TenderFantasy]

What if they don't want you to check on them and they even got a restraining order on you to make sure you don't stalk them.

[DizzyDesii]

I wouldn't check on them

[matchrestore]

Yeah. I'm still friends with one ex. We weren't compatible romantically but we get along great as friends.

[TenderFantasy]

How are you able to just be a friend to someone you used to have sex with, become physically and emotionally intimate with, almost marry, and build a future with? That's strange.

[matchrestore]

I don't know, its been pretty easy. We still got along just fine, the romance just wasn't there. We never had sex although we had done other sexual activity, although I don't know if my feelings towards remaining friends with her would change if we had actually had sex.

[BlissfullyCurSed]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/0uLI6BnVh6w

I had no exes, but I relate to this on a spiritual level😜😜!

[WhiteSteve]

I have no animosity for anyone I dated in the past. That’s 1990s/2000s drama. What would I look like holding a grudge that long?

[Joshydavid25]

Of course.. I still care about her, and wouldn't want anything bad to happen to her, no matter how we ended..

[TenderFantasy]

Geez that's matured of you. So even if she doesn't care about you or what happens to you? Very interesting.

[Joshydavid25]

I mean that would deter my feelings a bit, so I would rather not know if she does or doesn't.. LOL.. I guess I care about her well being with it's own merit..

[BoopBoopBeep]

Of course, i wish them only the best. Just because we didn't work out doesn't change that.

[TenderFantasy]

So you don't hold any bitterness that you didn't get what you wanted (which is a marriage and some babies and a family)? And they were a big part of why? ! They also stomped on your heart and didn't care if you were hurting because they left your life and you don't care? ! How very strange some people are lol.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well I'm happily child-free, so no to that part, to the rest, no because I'm emotionally centered and there's nothing to be gained by whining about someone hurting my feelings however many years ago. Life goes on, women come and go. I've been shot, stabbed, blown up, and twice people came to work to kill me. I've had real problems. Some lady deciding I'm not part of her plan anymore isn't one of them.

[TenderFantasy]

Wow you've gone through a lot of trauma, that not a lot of people go through. That's amazing you're still alive. .. And what is this "emotionally centered" thing that you speak of? People are just human with emotions and feelings. They exist for a reason.

But yes, I get about giving power to the wrong people, exs included. .. However, you don't have to "wish them the best" in my opinion, especially if they are not doing that to you! They only thought of themselves just like MY ex. So Tit for Tat. A fair world yo!

[BoopBoopBeep]

Centered is where you need to get back to. If your ships lists (tilts) too far to the left you capsize... too far to the right, same thing. You have to be centered to move forward. Emotions aren't bad, inherently, but when their extremes guide us and control us then they are not beneficial, they are parasitic.

I get dumped. I move on. There are 4 billion women on this planet. The one who just left me isn't the archetype. Another will be along and I'll form great memories with her.

[TenderFantasy]

"Emotions aren't bad, inherently, but when their extremes guide us and control us then they are not beneficial, they are parasitic"

Hmm, I don't know if I agree with that, but what you say IS interesting nonetheless. I think emotions (even extreme ones) CAN guide us or tell us that something is off? I mean, yeah you don't want to do anything illegal if you can help it, but I think that emotions play a good part to guide us like you said, into making sound decisions, sounds judgements (yes even when extreme. You just gotta find your peace and then act after that but I get it. But they are emotions for a reason. You are feeling them because someone isn't treating you right so you feel angry and/or sad. That is normal. Maybe if you tell them this, they'll either stop what they are doing or not care and then in that case, you shouldn't either. Don't give them power to hurt you.)

Also, what's with this ship stuff? I don't get that. Some relationships go from love to hate unfortunately for one reason or another. Heck even the relationship you have with yourself can be unstable, especially if you're going through something. Also, how is a ship related to that?

"Another will be along and I'll form great memories with her." What if you don't want to keep looking and you want a stable and committed partnership instead of keeping on looking as if you never left the dating stage?

But anyway thank you, this was very helpful.

[SweetDripp]

I wouldn’t wish any of those things on anyone.

[TenderFantasy]

Aww you're too kind lol.

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't have any exes. But yes, there are some people who I would be sad if any one of those things happened to them.

[TenderFantasy]

Really? At 37 years old? I don't believe you lol.

[Jamie05rhs]

@TenderFantasy It's the truth! 🤷

[TenderFantasy]

How did you manage to reach that age without ever having had any past relationships? Most people that reach that age have had at least one or two behind them.

[Jamie05rhs]

@TenderFantasy Elefino. Don't ask me! Haha

[Jamie05rhs]

It says you made an update but there is no update.

[TenderFantasy]

Yeah, they probably deleted it. Ugh lol. Stupid, mean G@G. I just said that I felt that people who cared about their exes were pathetic and stupid and were basically wasting their time/emotions but I guess I am not allowed to have my own opinion on that. I think it really IS though.

[Jamie05rhs]

Interesting. Yeah, I don't know why they deleted it. I'm sorry. You have a right to your opinion.

[MarkDown]

I would be hurt some, I did love them at one point. Mostly, I would be upset for their families. No matter what they acted like they all had family that loved them.

[TenderFantasy]

Well let the grieving come from them and not you. THEY hurt you and betrayed your trust. Why REWARD them with care when they won't even do the same for you? ! And what's in the past is passed including you. They decided to THROW YOU AWAY so yeah, why have any love left for that type of person!

[MarkDown]

@TenderFantasy true, I do need to let go of the past a lot easier than I do in that case.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope I wouldn't care. Let me be clear I don't wish anything on anyone but if something happen I probably wouldn't care much

[exitseven]

Yes. Even though some really hurt me there is someplace in my heart that would feel bad.

[TenderFantasy]

I see.

[HighValue]

I would laugh at their misfortune and enjoy it.

[Sevenpointfive]

it depends on which one. i'm sure i'd be happy for half of them being stupid or unlucky

[Anonymous]

Oops

[elaphe]

Of course. I don't wish ill on anyone. Besides, you were with them, right? If they are so contemptible, why did you ever date them?

[TenderFantasy]

That's before I knew how EVIL, SELFISH, VINDICTIVE and CONNIVING they were. You don't ever know that at first dummy lol.

[Luckycharms12]

Yes of course there exes I cared about them just because relationship ended doesn't mean want anything bad to happen them

[TenderFantasy]

Why would you care about someone that broke your heart or hurt you? That doesn't make sense. They probably don't give a fuck about you so it would be kinda pathetic or counter-productive to care about someone who doesn't care about you!

it was one sided just like your relationship lol.

[Luckycharms12]

Not everyone that you break up with breaks your heart or hurts you. And vice versa can just fizzle our

[TenderFantasy]

So your time, emotions, and anticipated goals together meant nothing? Then why did you go out with them and they with you? Just to waste each other's time? Like, what if you wanted a family and you really thought they were a good match, but unfortunately, their stupid ass did not. And you're not exactly a spring chicken anymore in terms of fertility or whatever. I wish people would stop being selfish for a change and see things from their partner's point of view.

Some men act like teenagers forever. They get spoiled because they can have kids well into their 40's and 50's or whatever but women, it gets harder with age to not only conceive but to keep a pregnancy.

.. And its not like I was LOOKING for Mr. Immature or Mr. Waste My Time..

[Luckycharms12]

Never said it meant nothing wasn't working for both of us we ended it as friends

[FunkyMonkee]

The first two, probably, the third, I'm not so sure.

[KillinItHard]

Care? Sure... Not enough to do anything about it though. If you're my ex, it's for a reason. Good riddance.

[TiaNour]

Yeah, my ex broke up with me and then passed away the next day.

[TenderFantasy]

Woah.. that sounds intense.

[Roudyrebel8]

They are all human beings so yes I would care

[TenderFantasy]

Nope. Some people don't think others are human beings. They just do whatever their heart desires and are selfish, and if that includes hurting people, they don't care, so I really don't get why you would? You're too pathetically kind lol.

[NathanDavis]

they are my friends...

[TenderFantasy]

Woah... really? ? ! How'd you manage THAT? ? ! Lol. You're not dissappointed that she/he isn't going to be your Mr./Mrs. Right or your wife or the mother/father of your children? You're not going to feel bad that they are going to do all those things with another person? Having grandkids with another person? Having sex with another person? ! You don't mind being rejected by them whatsoever? ? ! Then why did you even DATE them if you didn't see that type of possibility with them? !

I could see if maybe you weren't really that attracted to them, you'll most likely get over them faster, but if you built a lot of dreams and goals together and now they dumped you and now they are going with someone else, you will not feel betrayed or angry? Nor sad? ? ! How very strange indeed.

[NathanDavis]

was all this about me?

or a personal experience of someone else?

[TenderFantasy]

You or someone else it doesn't matter. How did you get over the ill or bitter, or any other negative feelings associated with being dumped/left/used/overlooked or rejected by this person (or persons)!

[NathanDavis]

I was not dumped nor rejected... nor ended up with hurt, damaging, negative feelings

like I said, we're friends... and it was high-school days, lol... long long time ago

[wiltingrosepetal]

Yes? He was a huge part of my life for so long

[wiltingrosepetal]

To the update:
Not all relationships end because one broke the other's trust. He was my first love who I dated for two years but after realising we fundamentally weren't going to work out in an adult relationship, we broke up. I still loved him, he still loved me, but we decided to stop before it hurt us.

It's not pathetic to care about an ex. You don't know the circumstances of any of these break-ups

[TenderFantasy]

Well okay but still. If your ex doesn't care about you anymore, then why should you care about them? Some people can make it work and become "friends" with their ex, but not everyone can do that because what if the other person wants more from the person and so that's when it becomes difficult and awkward. Not every relationship breaks up in good terms is all I am saying. Lucky if you do.

[wiltingrosepetal]

It wasn't good terms, it was really painful. We both cried on a phone call and then blocked each other. Thing is, I know he cares about me and I care about him too. But we care about the memories we shared and the time we had. I want him to be happy, I want him to find someone he can be with forever. That person won't be me and I'm okay with that.

Just because something ended badly doesn't mean the experience wasn't positive. I may not want to date him again but I certainly don't want to see him hurt

[TenderFantasy]

That is interesting, but not only pathetic and stupid no offense. You were okay with him HURTING you? I couldn't update the question further but I was about to add stupidity to the list, along with being pathetic. He's the reason why you are now single again and back on the treacherous dating market. He's the reason why you got emotionally hurt as well. And after all that, you still wish him the best? It makes no sense, especially if they don't care that they stomped on your dreams of being with them as your husband or growing old with them or whatever.. You will now have to look towards someone else in the HOPES that they'll have a baby/family with you, but not ever him again. You (and others) are basically telling me that it's okay for others to hurt you and get away with hurting you/rejecting you/deeming you not good enough to be married to and to have a family with.

[wiltingrosepetal]

You're right, random person online. I'm so very delusional for not wanting my first love to be terminally ill 😊 clearly this is a problem with me and not you!

[TenderFantasy]

I'm not talking about anyone who was truly good to you and did not hurt you intentionally. But in the first place, why did he/they become an ex if things were good? That's all I was saying and yeah, I STILL think people who aren't cared for by either their ex, SHOULDN'T also care about them. It's just not fair to that person. They'd be wasting precious energy and emotions for the wrong people. They're not doing the same for them and wouldn't.

[IslaTheWitch]

Yes I would...

[Nikki1989]

Yes, I would be devastated.

[strateguy632]

2nd..