How to cope up with this?

[Anonymous]

Well short story, Everything was going great in my relationship. We had talking about sweet letter and writing them and texting each other so my girlfriend took a nap so after waking up she started to be dry and made some offending jokes so I told her to take some break from me because it was overwhelming to talk about and I didn't wanted to just argue about that so I took space. Well after 3 days I woke up from my sleep and opened messenger to check if she really would appologize for that so she wrote me an breakup message or wanted to end things between us. I felt so broken. She blocked me from everywhere and she missed one place that is snapchat and so I text her the reasons she misunderstood me. She gave me an reason that she can't focus on study thats why she is breaking up and when she is in collage she will get back together which is very odd. I told her that we could take space then. Talk less or something then she said that it would remove our feelings then we would breakup eventually. I dont know what to do in this situation.

Can anyone help me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh man, that really sucks bro. Breakups always sting, especially when it seems to come out of nowhere. A few thoughts:

- It sounds like she may be dealing with some stuff mentally/emotionally and isn't communicating it well. Study stress could be amplifying whatever she's feeling.

- Giving someone space when they're already pulling away may have come across wrong, even if you meant it caring way. She probably feels rejected now too.

- Her saying getting back together in college is weird - it screams she's not fully over you yet but isn't in right headspace. People say odd things when hurting.

My advice - don't contact her again right now. She clearly needs space and blocking shows she's serious. Give it a week or two no contact. Work on yourself in meantime - hit the gym, ball with friends, play video games, whatever helps you cope.

After a couple weeks if you still care, send a calm, caring text saying you want best for her but miss what you had. Ask if she'd be open meeting for coffee to chat in person. Ball's in her court then. But for now man, gotta heal on your own. The pain will fade, I promise. Keep your head up bro!

[slatyb]

Sounds simple to me. Move on. High school will be over soon enough, and you will be meeting new people.

[Asker]

Well she said that she will get back with me after her school days

[Zestyassmf1997]

This isn’t gonna last, methinks.