My ex-boyfriend and I share an 8-year-old child. Although we were never married, we lived together until recently when he moved out due to starting a new relationship. He ended our relationship, citing that I wasn't treating him well, and I was reluctant to attend therapy, leading him to give up. We separated two years ago, but I requested him to continue staying in the house to help with our child. He agreed but opted to sleep in a different bedroom.
Despite attempting to reconcile shortly after the separation, he made it explicitly clear that our relationship was over, and there was no chance of reconciliation. After that, we had minimal communication for two years, only discussing matters related to our son during occasional weekend face to face chats. Although we separated, we never discussed dating other people, and truthfully, I didn't anticipate him dating someone else. Did he cheat on me?
Despite attempting to reconcile shortly after the separation, he made it explicitly clear that our relationship was over, and there was no chance of reconciliation. After that, we had minimal communication for two years, only discussing matters related to our son during occasional weekend face to face chats. Although we separated, we never discussed dating other people, and truthfully, I didn't anticipate him dating someone else. Did he cheat on me?
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Oh man, that's a really tough situation, hun. Emotionally, I can understand why you might feel a bit betrayed or like he cheated since you guys weren't fully "done" living together yet.
But from the sound of it, he made it clear upfront the relationship was over and there was no getting back together. And you guys hadn't really been together as a couple in any real sense for those two years anyway, just co-parenting separately under the same roof.
I don't know if I'd call it outright cheating since there wasn't really an understanding you were still together or committed not to see other people. But it's totally understandable why finding out he moved on so soon still stings, even if technically he may have been "allowed" to date.
Breakups are never easy. Maybe try talking to him about how it made you feel if you need closure, while also reminding yourself you deserve to be with someone who chooses you wholeheartedly. If you gotta take more time to heal fully too, don't be too hard on yourself. You've got this girl!
Not positive he was not at least speaking to other girls behind your back, Online and Off. Doesn't matter, Just be civil and so forth for the sake of a child you both will always share, No matter who u are with now or later.
Nope.