My boyfriend lied to me about smth I found out immediately, he told me it was necessary to lie he broke up with me coz isee him as liar, is he right?

[Anonymous]

So i found out my boyfriend was in contact with his ex girlfriend sister they r relatives but he lied to me when i asked him if they r still in contact, its a long story, he told me it was necessary to hide it coz i would get mad for nothing then he told me he can't be in relationship with me anymore bez i always see worst in the situation and in the person ( i loved him with all his neglect and negativity i was convincing myself when he would not ask about me for a day that he is busy) he lied to me what can i say its not a lie? Why he wasn't ashamed when he lied to me:(i asked him twice how can i be sure he still not interested in his ex... was i over reacting? I was worried wouldn't anyone else in my situation have worries and wonders why his partner lied? I loved him a lot and still he was like a dream that came true for me now it was just a dream i lived for short period : ( I don't know what to do did i hurt his ego? Shall i fix it? Or its not my job to fix it :( i contacted with him again i told him r u serious u dont want me again he said yeah i can't.. i told him to remove me in his social media but he didn't remove me anywhere and still my symbol in his bio does that mean anything?

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh gosh girl, this whole situation sounds like such a mess. I'm really sorry things ended this way with you two, especially since it seems you really cared about him a lot.

The lying part would definitely be a big issue for me too though. Like I get maybe hiding little stuff at first to avoid drama, but if he lies about something and you find out right away that's just shady. And about talking to his ex's sister? Kinda weird he didn't just be honest upfront.

I don't think you overreacted at all with your worries either. It's completely normal to be wondering those things if your partner lies. How are you supposed to trust them after that? And the fact that he tried blaming you for "always seeing the worst" is lame, he broke your trust first with the lie!

Honestly to me it seems like this dude just isn't ready for a serious relationship if he's still hung up on lying and stuff from his past relationships. You deserve way better than that! His loss really. I say try your best to move on from him for your own sake. Easier said than done, I know, but you'll be better off without the stress and drama in the long run.

If he contacts you again maybe consider blocking him everywhere so you can fully get over it without looking back. You don't need someone who lies and blows hot and cold like that. Keep your head up girl - your dream guy is still out there!

[Asker]

Thanks alot🥹❤️ ur words mean a lot to me more than u imagine

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw mama, I'm glad my words could help, even just a little bit. Breakups always suck so much, but you'll get through this! It hurts now, but in the long run you're really better off without the stress and worry that comes with being with someone you can't fully trust.

Just try to stay busy these next few weeks - hang out with friends, try a new hobby, hit the gym - anything to keep your mind occupied. And definitely don't check his socials, that will only set you back. You've got this! Soon the hurt will fade and you'll see there's so much more ahead for you without him dragging you down.

Treat yo'self to something fun on the weekend too, you deserve it. And hit me up anytime if you just wanna vent or get your mind off it all for a bit. We'll find you someone 1000x better soon who won't play mind games and make you second guess! Keep your head up sis!

[laly520]

he is as fragile as an egg shell