I just spoke to someone who thinks it is always one gender’s fault when a divorce happens. Do you think he is correct?
I've said Yes but would have preferred a MOSTLY option.
Median length of marriage is 8 years and at least 70-80% of divorces are unilaterally initiated by women - I think 80-90% is more accurate. It is undeniably true that divorces are largely initiated by women.
Now fault is ambiguous. Most people wouldn't consider it the divorcing spouses fault if their spouse cheated which is why I think the female initiated divorces are nearer to 80-90%. You have to consider cheating as divorce initiation in my view.
There are a range of things we would consider as not the divorcing spouses fault in the termination of the marriage.
But is boredom, depression and a 'need to find themselves' really the other spouses fault? Considering that both husbands and wives are ordinary people, it is possibly unreasonable expectations that are the major cause.
So as well as being women that are unilateral initiators, I tend to think it is predominantly their fault
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Divorce is usually both spouses' fault
Oh, so now even gender is the cause for divorce. Gender this and gender that. I hate hat hate that word!!!
Why don't you watch divorce court for a week and see for yourself.
Or, just Google it.
It could be either, but the female usually gets hurt more and the guy pays more lol
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Ofcourse not. You cannot clap with one hand. It takes two.
The opinion of that person you were speaking with could be true but not universally. As in if someone in a marriage cheats, then it's exclusively that person's fault. You can't blame the gender coz of that.
Barring such exceptions, a fallout occurs when both the people refuse to try and make things work. Their egos supercedes the relationship. And when a person starts valuing themselves more, it's unlikely to have a fruitful relationship.Obviously not exclusively, because every case is different and every couple's circumstances are different.
BUT... on average, the blame for the high divorce rate and the destruction of the institution of marriage falls squarely at the feet of women. Half of marriages end in divorce, women file 80% of them, and men get screwed in divorce and child custody.
And, it's impossible to ignore the fact the highest dicorce rate by far is among lesbian couples, the lowest rate is among gay couples, and the rate among hetero couples in right in between. It's pretty hard to ignore the implications there.
Most of todays women are very self-centered and self-serving, and have no sense of commitment. That's the bottom line.
A relationship has 2 people. It takes 2 people for a relationship to work and 2 people for it end. Fault may not always be 50/50 but both parties are always ALWAYS at fault for the relationship ending. In fact the biggest red flag either a man or woman can have is when asked "why did your last relationship end" they respond with "oh so and so did this this this this" and not once do they list anything they did wrong.
Most divorces are initiated by women and most divorces are do to financial reasons. But that doesn’t translate to always and you can’t assume things about every divorce case because of it.
I think it's primarily the man's responsibility to make sure the woman is happy. If he's unable to succeed in doing so consistently, then she has every right to divorce him, in my opinion.
most are initiated by women. add lesbian divorce rate higher and know female fault in most divorces.
She picked him out of many guys, then she divorces him as women file most divorces so yeah she has the most culpability the majority of the time.
No, not always. But in general, the fact that half of marriages end in divorce today is far more the fault of women than men.
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