If you maybe don’t want to be around him or be a co-parent with him. You can financially support a child without his support. Then best to stay away. If you want child support. Then he really should know as soon as you know, for sure.
Most Helpful Opinions
You keep on saying after the birth, after the birth... obviously you have something in your mind... CHILD SUPPORT!, as you don`t want to let the father know that you are pregnant and have no regards for His decision.
Safety in numbers. So normal home test confirmed by a test at the doctor. No point in telling him you MIGHT be pregnant. Wait until you are sure.
Might as well fuck with his mind asap so when the pee test shows positive. Let him know he might need a second job soon.
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
24Opinion
I would wait until you know for sure and then tell him. Just be prepared for either outcome where he will either be there or not.
I say after you get a blood test from the doctor. While highly accurate home tests do give false positives. If you wait too late then your ex won't believe he is the father.
For what it is worth, it is not the end of the world. Something similar happened with my parents, they broke off their relationship before I was birthed into the world but by the grace of GOD I turned into me. My mom was patient and raised me with the help if my Dad's parents. My Dad took responsibility for me during the Summers so I did grow up with him around, but he was living with his parents for most of my childhood so I was nurtured by my second mom too, my grandmother.
I know you will figure things out and hopefully you can always be cordial with the child's father. That took a lot a patience on my mom's part and I love her for it. Because while I love my dad he can be a man child.
Finally and I know you didn't ask this, but please don't let the child be the excuse the two of you get back together. Only do that if you love each other and are committed to your relationship otherwise both of you could be signing up for a living hell which in the end could do more harm to your child than good. But I will add that if the two of you are willing to become a unit your child will benefit greatly.
You will be in my thoughts as I pray before GOD. Be Blessed Always!
People want to have their cake and eat it too. If you were married in a very long term relationship, there would be no problems. That being said, you have to tell him. It his responsibility to know. Men shouldn't be heartless monsters to just throw their kids in the trash so to speak. We can only pray to Jesus for things to turn out right.
It really depends on why you broke up. If he is an abusive guy… I don’t know maybe never.
Also check legal repercussions.
Also depends on your money situation.- m
When you take a pregnancy test and it comes back positive
Make sure that you are sure and then tell him, even if its a miscarriage he deserves to know and a chance to grief the loss.
When you are positive about it. For a current boyfriend, it can be sooner.
I'm assuming that the ex is the father. If he's not, I don't see any reason to tell him at all.
You can't just ask a question like that with literally no details and expect appropriate responses. I mean, how does he even know it's his?
Immediately unless you don't know who the father is. Regardless you should get a DNA test anyways so he knows the child is his
When you take a pregnancy test then you both can decide if you want it or not.
When you confirm at the doctor's office that you're actually pregnant.
there will never be a good time. first ask yourself if you want them in your life or not when it comes to raising the child. if you don't want them you don't have to tell
Before you start showing… but the sooner the better, obviously.
when you take a pregnancy test at the doctors office.
Just tell him when its absolutely confirmed.
You aren't telling an ex. You are telling the father of your child.
Time to get back together I think. Whatever quarrel you two had to cause a break up is probably nothing compare to a baby already growing up in a broken home
He's your ex. Unless you can prove it's his, you've got nothing to gain.
Why would you need to tell your ex something like that? Is it his kid? Better tell him right away, he's going to be paying for it.
If you are like most women, after the baby is born, you will complain that he never offered any support during your pregnancy.
Learn more
Most Helpful Opinions