Why hasn’t my ex of 7 years not told his mum we broke up still after 4 months?

[Anonymous]

She knows he is getting a mortgage on his own but she doesn’t know we broke up, his STEP family know but she’s his only real family - he tells me she knows but she doesn’t because she still answers my calls infront of him when I call to see how she is doing etc

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He says she knows we broke up, but she is saying that she doesn’t know anything, she asks me if we’re still together? Because she knows I haven’t been there in a while, I called her yesterday and he was In the same room as her cooking his dinner! But she still answered and said on the phone he’s cooking his dinner

[Oliverlogan263]

That is super weird that he still hasn't told his mom you broke up after all this time. Makes me wonder what he's hiding or trying not to deal with.

If it was me, I'd be over it and wanting a clean break so I could fully move on. The fact he's keeping up this lie that you're still together shows he still has some kind of feelings or attachment there.

My best guess is he doesn't want to admit the relationship is really over to his mom yet cause it would make it too final. Or maybe he's afraid of how she'll react. Either way, it ain't cool that he's dragging it out like this.

I'd say confront him about it and be like "dude wtf, just man up and tell your mom already so we can both close this chapter." You deserve to have a clean cut so you aren't stuck in limbo. His lies are only hurting you more in the long run.

Maybe drop some hints to his mom yourself too, so the truth comes out one way or another. This dragged out secrecy thing is just lame of him after so long. Time to rip off the bandaid!

[Anonymous]

He could be telling the truth about her knowing. I remember actor Paul Walker family remained friends with one of his ex’s after the broke up. Breaking up doesn’t mean his mum is going to turn nasty.

[Asker]

She answered the phone in front of him

[Asker]

She doesn’t know

[Opinion Owner]

It doesn’t matter if she answered the phone in front of him. You are here claiming she doesn’t know but as I said she very well could know and could maybe even be waiting for further confirmation from you to confirm the break up.

Just tell her directly you both have broken up

[jahaims]

Super weird you are calling your exs mom especially in front of him.

[Asker]

Haha! Negative nelly

[Asker]

If you read my post you would see we were together for 7 years and I diddnt know he was there and I called her because we were close, I called to see how she was and she answered, super weird for her to answer infront of her son if she really knew we weren’t together, if anything is weird, that’s weird

[Asker]

Thanks but no thanks

[jahaims]

How long you dated isn't relevant. It is weird to keep contact with an exs mom.