AITA for choosing not to help my ex?

[longjump89]

I had a relationship with this woman for more than half a year, and it was on and off.

She broke up with me last 2022 to return to her ex, but before I found out she already cheated on me with him. Throughout 2023, I only found out that she had a relationship with my uncle who is the dad of my cousins and they made out behind my back. So the family was ruined and she got pregnant with my uncle, and now the baby is born.

She was also asking for child support even if I'm not the father, but I refused. Then, she told me that I'm so bitter for not helping her. The reason why she told me this is because both of us originally wanted to be parents. I also wanted it but not in this way! The most unthinkable happened though, she forged my signature on the child's birth certificate!

I'm now trapped in this problem! After all the cheating and the physical abuse she did to me, I really don't see myself being the dad of this family that I didn't create in the first place! Do I have all the rights to not give her any money?

[Oliverlogan263]

Sheesh, that's messed up situation dude. After all the cheating and lies, you definitely have no obligation to help her at all. A few things:

- Her getting pregnant by your uncle is just crazy, that's gonna mess up your whole family.

- You're not the dad, so why would you pay child support? The birth certificate thing is sketchy as hell, talk to a lawyer about getting your name taken off if it's really forged.

- Don't give her a dime man. You don't owe her anything after how she treated you. She made her bed, now she has to lie in it.

- I'd cut off all contact too if I were you. Being around her will just bring drama and stress that you don't need.

She sounds toxic as hell. You gotta do what's best for you and not get taken advantage of after what she put you through. Don't feel bad about not helping - set clear boundaries and move on with your life without her drama. Your mental health is more important.

[boggboss]

So phone the police and inform her she illegally signed your name and take her to court over it also not being yours

[Little_Bumblebee]

Damn, sounds so unreal.
But if it is, in fact real. Lawyer up.

[longjump89]

It is real okay. Why do people think that paternity fraud isn't a thing?

[Little_Bumblebee]

It's not that I don't think paternity fraud isn't a thing.
The story just sounds so unreal, it could be in a movie or something.

[longjump89]

This is exactly why men are afraid to open up. Being said that something they say isn't real and won't even get the compassion he deserves.

[Little_Bumblebee]

I think you're misunderstanding me.

I'm not pointing fingers saying "that's not real"

It was more a "damn that sounds so unreal, it's crazy"

And then I said to lawyer up - as my advice.

[longjump89]

Sorry I misunderstood.