AIHA for refusing helping my ex?

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My ex and I work in the same profession. Things ended on a sad note and both of us are still recovering. In the mean time, she lost job and then entered another firm to meet her bills. The work was toxic as he was required to take additional responsibilities. Like a week of work to be completed in a week. Moreover, her senior at work has no idea what to do which meant she has to do 2 person job. The senior would say 'since im new to this, it's better you (my ex) do and I make a mistake.' Now she is desperately looking for a job.

So while we do talk, she asked me if I could help her with some referral for work or help her prep for an interview (the interview prep came up as I work in that domain and she wanted me to provide her with some questions that she can prepare for, and her friends dont have the domain expertise). I refused. Now she doesn't talk. AIHA?

SueShe · Answer

Most confusing question.

What is AIHA? Also, is your ex a male or a female because you use both pronouns to describe him/her.

Once you state "... she lost job..." and once you state "... he was required to take additional responsibilities...".

The first rule when breaking up is to cut all the bridges and not to start talking or texting your ex. Don't help him/her since that would involve getting closer to him/her again and then it makes the clear cut even more difficult.

The ex is an ex for a good reason and there is no obligation to help out.

Anonymous · Answer

Largely depends on how your relationship ended and whether you could call on her to do the same. I mean if you guys are still talking you must have a friendship going so the question is whether she is the kind of friend who has helped you in the past or would help you no problem? Or is she the kind of friend who will ask for something with one hand out and giving you the finger with the other when you need help.

AIHA for refusing helping my ex?

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