My girlfriend broke up with me saying she can't see herself marrying me?

Question

I feel like we had a good relationship, we got along had the same values, kissed a lot and I did everything I could to be good to her. She broke into tears and told me she just can't see herself marrying me and that it doesn't feel right.

What does this mean?

Should I move on or just give her some space for a while?

Personal_Dictionary · Accepted Answer

Girlfriend: A mythical creature who once graced your life with the prospect of pussy, but has now flown the nest in search of a real man who can make her cum like Niagara Falls.

Broke up: The moment your world came crashing down, and you realized you'd have to jerk off to sad porn alone for the foreseeable future.

Marrying: The union of two souls in holy matrimony, or in your case, the union of your ball sack with your hand for the rest of your sad, lonely life.

Move on: What you should do. Go find someone who actually wants your limp dick and learn how to fuck like a pornstar.

Give her some space: Alternatively, you could give her the space she needs to find a real man. A man who can make her moan, scream, and beg for more. A man who knows how to use his cock to bring her to orgasmic bliss, instead of just offering chaste kisses and boring good behavior.

Good relationship: In your deluded mind, you thought you had a good thing going. Kissing, sharing values, and treating her "well." Newsflash, a good relationship involves more than just chaste kisses and playing by the rules like a boring blue-baller.

Same values: Speaking of values, let's interpret this one. You probably thought it meant honesty, trust, and all that vanilla shit. But in reality, it just meant you were both boring prudes who didn't know how to spice things up with some kinky, depraved action.

Broke into tears: Ah, the moment your fantasy came crashing down. She wept, not out of joy from being pounded by your throbbing cock, but because she realized she'd rather stick her hand in a blender than spend another day with your sorry ass.

Can't see herself marrying you: Translation: "I'd rather deepthroat Satan's cock @on_my_knees than spend eternity with your pathetic, unadventurous self." She craves a man who can take control, tie her up, and make her scream for mercy. But instead, she got a sniveling beta male who probably asks for consent before taking off her bra.

It doesn't feel right: Her pussy wasn't tingling, her nipples weren't hardening at the thought of you, and her asshole certainly wasn't clenching in anticipation of your non-existent dominant tendencies. She felt nothing.

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

Maybe she believed that something about you is not up to the task. Being a spouse has more requirements than just being a boyfriend. Also women say X but really want Y all the time. I'm not saying life is all about what they want, but the reality is that both people better be getting what each one wants or it's not going to work. Which is also why a guy is wise to be very, very careful which woman he chooses to take personally and to marry. Checkout some of my mytakes... may give you ideas. Like:

Did she expect you to bring more to the table?

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Did she maybe have some secret and decided to move on because of that but gave you a different reason?

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Were you too soft?

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Did you think it was a 50/50 situation? Women may say they're into that but most aren't really.

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Were you needy?

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SueShe · Accepted Answer

At your age, giving her space means leave her for good.

You are simply not meant to be together and connected by a piece of paper. It is one thing to have a good relationship but it is a totally different thing to have a marriage certificate that binds you for life, or at least till the one or the other wants a divorce and then it can get nasty and expensive.

She is simply not ready for that commitment and kissing is a lot is simply not sufficient to tie the knot. There is so much more to a marriage than sex and kissing.

Let her go and move on. That she wants you to do.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Something either about getting married or about you didn't seem to fit.

How far away from the wedding date is it? If it's a few weeks before the wedding, then "cold feet" are normal. Sometimes the btb has so many people pressing in on her with opinions about the stupidest things that she snaps and thinks it's crazy to go through with all of it.

If it's months/years off and she cancelled... then she either spotted something shady about you or someone told her something shady.

Give her a few days to calm down and then ask her.

AviatorTom · Answer

You're in your 30s, and I'm sure she thinks you want to marry, but she realizes she's not the one for you. It takes courage to recognize that. It's unlikely she will change her mind, so best thing is to consider moving on.

Or, let me not jump to conclusions. Maye you're not interested in marriage. If that's the case, let her know that, and that you are very happy being with her, not marrying her. She may be okay with that, or she may still feel the "married" pressure.

Best wishes.

BTigers96 · Answer

It means she doesn't want to marry you. Do yourself a favor and move on.

As someone who was dumped for kinda the same reason once I know how it feels. But honestly, if you need to "convince" her your marriage material she's not for you. Round hole, square peg.

My wife is nicer, better looking, more fun, and an all around better person than the girl who dumped me. Don't ever let a girlfriend "break" you or control you, especially after a break-up. Have some self-respect, move on, and enjoy being single for a bit.

HawkPerception · Answer

This is likely beyond salvaging, but at the very least you might be able to figure out why she feels that way.

Say something along the lines of "Hey I completely respect your decision and I'm okay with it, but I just don't want to be left in the dark here. Can you please let me know what it was that I did wrong or if I did nothing wrong, could you just tell me what was missing from you in any way? I just want to know so I can avoid the same mistakes in the future."

Feel free to use that word for word if you want.

godfatherfan · Answer

That is the reason I break up with women. When it gets to the point where I know in my heart, there is no way I would marry her (or live the rest of my life with her), then what is the point of continuing the relationship?
Since I over think everything, this is not something that I would do on a whim. If I get to this decision, I have thought about it every which way a thousand times. At my age, I won't necessarily get remarried. We may just end up living together. That makes a lot more sense for older people sometimes. Just depends on finances.

Angelo75 · Answer

Well since she's an adult, this decision shouldn't be forced to change because:
A. If she felt pressure of her family to break up, that means she chose family over you. That's a recipe for headaches later on. She would be choosing family over you again and again.

B. If she did it because she considers you two as incompatible, well, if she decided to quit that means she doesn't have the right attitude of "stay and fight" for a relationship anyways.

So either way you're better off to just move forward and start the emotional mourning of a broken relationship. And start looking for a girl that's ready to stay and fight for you.
Hell... there might have been one girl lurking under your nose without even realizing it because you were completely focussed on your ex-girlfriend.

Just take a deep breath and let your emotions settle. Sooner or later your logical side will take over. (asuming you're a guy)

IslaTheWitch · Answer

it can mean anything...

the relationship wasn't as good as you have seen it
she met someone else and realized it didn't make any sense anymore
she said the truth... but if she loved you, I think she would fight for the relationship...

but still, we don't know you or her... so we can only guess

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Moving on is the answer. Once a woman say those words, it's time to give up. If she just wanted to have space, she will just simply ask for time.

Something's missing here, and maybe you can ask about it.. if you're curious. Ask her what else is she looking for.

SphynxUK · Answer

It means, she doesn’t want a relationship with you because it’s not working for her. Simple. It doesn’t matter what you say or do. That’s life. Some relationships aren’t forever and never were intended to be.
She’s been very clear and mature in telling you. Take it in your stride, take your time to accept closure, and move on.
Leave her be. She’s upset too. It would have taken a good deal of courage to tell you.

Caroline91 · Answer

I know it’s hurtful. Perhaps respect her for being respectful of you and having integrity instead of stringing you along. Believe it or not you can make it as good a breakup as possible instead of angry and messy. Let her go, take time to heal, get back out there and live your best life. You’ll be okay.

Minky17 · Answer

It means you aren't mature or husband material. Especially if it's been longer than a year. She's not going to wait around for you to grow up mentally. Your maturation rate is still stuck in early 20s.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Tell her thank you for doing you the favor.

bobalife · Answer

It can be many things but it’s okay to ask why she doesn’t feel right about it. If someone say they don’t feel right, it’s a clear sign to moved on… unless there’s a solution between the two of you.

mobiusforniner · Answer

You respect her decision and move on. Don’t lament. Don’t push her. Just walk forward, self reflect and build yourself into the best version of you.

avery58 · Answer

If she said that, just move on at this point.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

move on. it should be really clear with whats she's said. but maybe thats why you're not marriage material

Kelley1 · Answer

Look for another girlfriend but keep your options open in case she want to return.

236color · Answer

You should move on and fine somebody else. This is over.

coxoabean · Answer

I'm really sorry that your going through that.

boggboss · Answer

Clearly somthing was or is wrong on her end if she ended things I wpuld say its time to move on

DextroShade · Answer

And to the streets she shall return! Just ghost her and move on with your life.

Yannae · Answer

I would move on. But I would ask her for reasons, Actual Arguments.

onedarkcloud · Answer

I don't know which would be worse to be single and unhappy or be married and be very unhappy. Personal choice

justabuddy · Answer

Give her some space so you can move on. Focus on yourself for a bit. If she comes back then you can decide what to do then. It does not good waiting on her and not living life to it's fullest.

nawtee_me · Answer

Ask her if she needs the space or if she needs to move on….

DreamLife7 · Answer

Means what she says stupid. What do u mean should u move on? U have no choice

SotiCoto · Answer

That relationship is dead, unfortunately.

Iron_Man · Answer

Shame on her but give it a while

jahaims · Answer

Move on

In_Trance · Answer

Move on

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