Why does my ex blame me for everything? No matter what negative things occur she points fingers at me without pointing fingers at herself first?

[Finchie40]

My ex and I are still legally married and we still live together , the second I got laid off from my job , I been applying to jobs like crazy and having no lick whatsoever , everyday I am hunting and applying to jobs trying to get myself back onto my feet , my ex on the other hand , is depending on me to save everyone , including herself , she doesn’t work and thinks she shouldn’t have to work , another reason her and I split , she is a fucking user , I have no support from her whatsoever, she hasn’t stepped up once to help out financially , she constantly makes excuses as to why she can’t work when she is offered jobs in her line of work , she refuses all of them , thinking she shouldn’t have to work. I told her to get her shit and to get out of this house if she doesn’t want to step up and help out , she keeps relying on me to save the day , I told her once I land a job she isn’t getting a dime from me. So you better figure something out soon , part of me thinks she is seeking another Sucker to sweep her off her feet to support her. She is a selfish person and a user. Please someone take her away from me lol

[DishLady]

All exes do that to get people on their side by playing the victim. Very immature. Don’t get too caught up in it. She’s just generating drama.

[Finchie40]

Yea she is nothing but drama , acts like the whole world revolves around her , she is sadly a very miserable negative person that only thinks what is best for herself , I distance myself from her as much as possible but she some how some way manages to try to ruin my day , So I am no longer nice to her back , I treat her the same way she treats me, some days she is polite and nice and I will be polite and nice back , but most the times she is negative and rude , so when she presents herself to me that way , I give it right back to her. And yes you are right , she constantly plays a victim to her friends , like I am this horrible guy , when all I ever did was treat her with love and respect and bent over backwards for her numerous times with her lame ass excuses , as to why she can’t work , or why she no longer wanted to be close to me or kiss me or hug me , she turned out marriage complete around by her selfishness , I never heard so many excuses from anyone even my ex girlfriends treated me better when it came to my wants and needs. How dare something not go her way , I honestly feel bad for any guy or girl that falls for her shit.

[BonzoInBitburg]

Why are you still living together? Look for jobs in a different city or state, sell the house and get a fresh start somewhere else where you can reinvent yourself. You've got to get some distance between you and her

I took a nicer long holiday right after my divorce and it's a great way to reset

[lorenzomichael]

Because she’s a weirdo, and she doesn’t know how to communicate.

[fantasticass]

Go see a lawyer. Start the divorce proceedings. Kick her out, change the locks. End of story. Unless, you enjoy the drama!!

[Explorer91]

I am having a similar problem. Currently living with my ex. I am just trying to live in harmony for the next few months until our lease ends. He blames me for everything I cannot win. Even if I distance myself to just get some breathing room I am told I am this or that etc. He never has any respect for the patience I have for him. He has many diagnoses and keeps coming off and on the medication he was told to stay on. He just won't deal with anything but blames me for his moods or problems even though I am the only person who will deal with him. He doesn't have anyone to talk to (outside of his siblings) so he needs so much closeness from me emotionally even though we have broken up. It puts such a strain on the connection.

[Finchie40]

Sounds just like my situation exactly , she as well is on meds that only work for periods of time , if she stays on them which she doesn’t , she is so back and fourth with her moods to the point I can no longer tolerate it anymore , I call her Dr Jekyll Mr Hyde , basically I don’t know who I am coming home to. Some days she is nice to me but other days she is vicious and mean and disrespectful to me , I learned to let it go in one ear out the other for the most part and walk away when she is that way and tell her To go get help and that she is mentally insane , sometimes I will verbally attack her back if she pushes my buttons to much and tell her to get the fuck out of my face. She is a miserable negative person that thinks she should be catered to. So I threw in the towel on her and been focusing on myself and keeping my distance from her as much as possible , if I ever date again , I am going to make sure I check her medicine cabinet because this she is completely insane. My be we should set them up together to get them both out of our lives lol

[Caroline91]

Did you perhaps just give the best answer to your own question?

[Finchie40]

Yea it sounds like I did lol

[Caroline91]

Yes, I believe you did! Hopefully, you will make your escape from this relationship and go live your best life with a wonderful woman who loves you There is every possibility that you have a lot of joy and happiness in front of you, so take off and... don't ever look back!!

[idonotlikeyou]

So you chose her as your partner, and now you're complaining that you made a wrong choice? You know, we are responsible for our decisions. Grow up.

[Finchie40]

She changed on me , she isn’t the same person , her true colors shined and that’s why I am being an adult and walking away from this nonsense. She became very selfish and only cares about what is best for herself , she doesn’t take any responsibility for her actions , she expects everyone else to cater to her , she is a narcissistic POS user , that acts like the world is supposed to revolve around her , she thinks she shouldn’t have to work whatsoever , but she has no problem spending everyone else’s’ earned money. She has no goals but to use people, she thinks she does no wrong whatsoever , it’s her way or no way , I realized I can’t be with someone that is that way , The relationship turned one sided , she is sadly an Evil person that takes advantage of anyone that falls for her shit

[idonotlikeyou]

You made the wrong choice. Probably too quickly. Instead of waiting and getting to know her well, you wanted to have her in bed right away. 'It'll be fine,' you thought to yourself. And now she's to blame for everything. She's the evil one. And you're the poor victim.

Sometimes I wonder how guys can even look at themselves in the mirror when they make such victims of themselves.

[Finchie40]

No I was with her for a long time before she changed

[LaurenM1997]

Why don’t you go look for a house for yourself?

[Finchie40]

Cuz I can’t afford it I am jobless right now

[LaurenM1997]

Oh right yeah

[Dongie]

It's a shame some females are that way. If you don't want to work find a guy who wants that as well.

[avery58]

Agreed. I respect actual housewives who work hard to maintain their home and whose husband agrees to that arrangement cause my parents are like that. But this chick just sounds like a freeloader.

I want to work for myself and to help my husband out whenever I get married

[Dongie]

Yes, yes, and yes.

[Finchie40]

Yea I want a partner not a fucking user , A girl that has my back like I have hers not a girl that just puts her hand out and acts like she should be compensated just because she married me , she was never like this before but all of a sudden she changed on me and became very selfish expecting to be catered to , if she doesn’t get her way she finds another sucker to give into her , I honestly feel she is fooling around with her girlfriend that she just met not to long ago, their friendship is very weird and shady to me , This girl is attached to her hip and sends her money and takes her on trips and pays for everything, I told my wife you are doing more than just being friends with this girl , but she won’t tell me the truth , Whether I am right or wrong it doesn’t matter because I am so over her shit. I tried kicking her out but she won’t leave , she acts like she is doing me a favor by staying here and she also says she wants her part of the money if I decide to sell the house. She pretty much has me by the balls and making life a living hell , she doesn’t give a shit , she is only about herself. She doesn’t admit she is wrong at all , everything is my fault , I asked her nicely to please get a job so we can pay the bills , she won’t she acts like it’s my responsibility to take care of everything, she compares me to other men and says a real man would provide for his family , and I just laugh and said I have provided for this family my whole life , God forbid I have any type of support after being laid off from my job. So that just goes to show what kind of person she truly is , A selfish POS User.

[Dongie]

Set her up. Get pics and divorce.

[Jason2469]

Are you seriously asking why a bitch does anything? Who cares?

[LazerBean]

Why can't you just kick her out?

[Finchie40]

She won’t leave , she wants money from the house first if I sell

[NathanDavis]

why did you pick such a prize?