Why does my ex always blame me for our kids’ stupid decisions and acts like she is the better parent than me?

[Finchie40]

Our kids’ are in their 20’s and my son has severe ADHD and unfortunately he makes dumb decisions, My ex acts like his stupid decisions are my fault , she never takes accountability for the way our kids’ turned out , she makes remarks like I wish you were a better father , i wish you guided our kids’ more and then she compares me to other Dad’s and says shit like he wouldn’t let his kid do this or do that blah blah blah , I try to keep myself under control but at times I will snap out at her and tell her to look in the fucking mirror , because our kids’ do respect me and love me , so why do you make me out to be this bad father? Like what is her deal, I don’t bash her or blame her for the kids’ behaviors, and decisions , they are adults now , so I just walk away , cuz i know it’s going to escalate onto more. Once I calm down, i will talk to her and tell her to please stop trying to put the kids’ against me, She just says it’s fine it’s fine. But she doesn’t hear a word I say. Unfortunately my ex and I still live together and I try to keep the peace as much as possible , we agreed to living together until the kids’ are on their own 2 feet and then we are going to sell the house and go our separate ways. My ex is a very selfish person and that’s why our marriage turned to shit , she met a toxic girlfriend that my gut knows they are up to no good together , Her girlfriend buys her expensive gifts and pays for their trips together her friendship with this girl is very weird to me because she doesn’t act this way with her other friends’ . They are going on a trip together in a few weeks , that her girlfriend paid for , I told her have a good time and left it at that. I plan on having a good time as well when she is gone. I am also thinking of ways I can kick her out of this house when she goes away so she can’t come back. Any suggestions?

[katiesmuff]

Just why in the FUCK would you still be living with a woman like what you say she is like when you kids are grown and you guys are divorced.

[Finchie40]

Sadly because of financial reasons and we both agree on getting our last 2 kids’ on their feet and on their own and to sell the house and split the profit

[Anonymous]

Because she has a vagina, and according to her, and society, a woman can do no wrong.

It's how she makes her self feel better for being a shit mother.

[Finchie40]

Yea I totally agree with this because that’s exactly how she is , sadly our kids’ feel obligated to make her happy and to go out of their way to appease her , just so she doesn’t turn into this raging crazy bitch that she is , and ruin everyone’s day. Especially on her birthday or holidays , like how dare our kids’ didn’t buy her expensive gifts and waste all their money on her. It’s the craziest thing to witness , I tell my kids’ all the time to do not go out of your way to appease Mom whatsoever , but sadly she taught them to do so , She gives our kids’ lists of things she wants for her birthday and holidays , which blows my mind , it’s one thing to suggest what you want but to make a list , is insane to me. She was never this way until she became friends’ with this booshie bitch of a friend of hers. I had words with her over it plenty of times , to the point I realize she is just a user that doesn’t care about anyone but herself and I already feel bad for any guy or girl that falls into her shit. She is not a good person , she acts like she is but she isn’t , the girl needs serious mental therapy or some shit. My kids’ know I am the better parent , they don’t hate their Mom but they don’t respect her because of how she is , My daughters’ tell her all
The time to stop acting like a child when she doesn’t get her way and stop being mean to Dad , she gets pissed when she hears that , I told her in private doesn’t that tell you something? Then she plays this victim that nobody loves her or cares about her. And I think I wonder why

[In_Trance]

If you're not living together and don't pay child support there's absolutely no reason for you to talk to your ex.
Especially when your kids are adults

[chrissykerdock]

a marriage counselor would help more than gag will

[Finchie40]

That ship has sailed not wasting the time or money

[Anonymous]

I know all about it
Bossy wife
Overbearing
Self centered

Otherwise my wife has good traitsonest, loyal, trustworthy.
Just she can be irritating and that takes from the attraction... If there is any left.

[Ariesman81]

Yeah... get the fuck out of that house