Should I be honest with my new boyfriend or is lying the best idea?

[Anonymous]

So I was married for 10 years and have a child. My husband wanted a divorce and we got divorced last February. We still have been sleeping together casually at times since, and I was still in love with him. He got a girlfriend and I tried to sabatoge bc I felt like it was so soon to move on. (2 months post divorce). Then 7 months after divorce this past August I met an amazing man. 3 weeks after we met my ex started calling me and talking about rekindling things and getting married again and I entertained the idea and went to Florida. We slept together for the weekend and then he took his ex back and discarded me. I was heartbroken. I never stopped talking to the guy I met and now it’s been 2 months and I’m in love with him. I told him I didn’t see my ex while I was in fl. And I lied, I not only saw him but slept with him. I want to marry this man and have a family and I’m scarred if I tell him the truth he will hate me and never talk to me again. What do I do?

I don’t want my ex to ever try and sabatoge and I don’t want to lose him. I feel terrible and would never do something like that agin

[integrale77]

Lets consider the one last trist with your ex as some form of closure.

As you have lied already about seeing your ex let's assume you did that because your boyfriend wouldn't understand.

Best to keep it a secret your ex is probably doing the same and that will keep it from being used against you as you could do the same.

Sounds like your ex was probably just using you for sex the last time you saw him!

The biggest question is can you keep the secret without it eating away at you inside?

[melnc]

I think you should take a step back and focus on yourself instead of jumping from one thing to another. You seem more interested in chasing relationships than actually caring for your child. Your child should be your main concern right now. Get your act together... you’re not a teenager anymore.

[Abbycado]

You're already a cheater. Why not add a liar to the resume? Being deceitful seems to be your style.

[Asker]

We only had seen each other once. But text on the regular. So it was still early on

[boggboss]

Why are u even asking its obvious u will lie u don't have integrity so why pretend like u care about morals

[MasterKS]

sounds like you need sex more than anything, as you keep sleeping with ex!

[Jrg98]

good idea to leave him in the past