Is the first heart break really the most painful one?

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Is it getting easier relatively speaking?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Well I hope it is that's the way I look at it anyway

Once your heart is broken and you feel the things that you feel you value that you will never go back there again you protect yourself

It might take a lot of time before you allow yourself to even date again but when you do you have your guard up and you understand that it's not the end of the world if things don't work out that there's usually a reason it's just all the other bull crap that goes with it

Before I get into a relationship I talk to myself LOL
And I say something like here we go again how much do you really like her can you trust her do you respect her do you love her how far are you willing to open yourself up to give to her

And then vice versa is she going to give all of herself to you or you know what I mean anyway

And then you say well what happens if it doesn't work and you say I have to suck it up and I have to walk away if she cheats I have to suck it up and I have to walk away it's not going to hurt me as much because I've already been through it I'm not going to going to allow it to hurt me I've already went through all that pain one time and that's all I need to know that I'm not going to go back there I'll let somebody give me that pain just that one time but I will never allow anybody to give me that type of pain again and then I say well I'm going to go for it and whatever happens happens I will put my 100% into it I hope that they can do the same thing and if they can't then it's just not meant to be it's something happens it's just not meant to be and you have to accept that acknowledge it and then either walk away or go for it it's not that it gets easier in a sense but you have to make it get easier it's almost like being cold-blooded that you have to be that way and that really sucks because you always have that little barrier up that you don't allow somebody to walk through so the true meaning of a true relationship is hard just because of that but at the same time as well worth it I think you have to live life we're on this planet for just a little bit of time and you have to experience everything and the pain that you feel is as deep as the love that you give there's a wrong and right yes no hello goodbye positive negative love hate and they all equally each other until you learn a deeper meaning but I'll never hold myself back because I'm going to experience life I want to take it all with me I want to feel it all I want to experience it all explore it all I want to understand it all and the only way to do that is jump in with both feet and walk away with both feet if you have tore-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

My first heartbreak was in high school and, in retrospect, I was only infatuated and not in love at all. It took me a few years to really start moving forward after that.

Since then, I have been in love seven times and had other relationships which hadn't progressed to love but still ended with hurt and disappointment. Over the years, the pain of a failed relationship had been slightly less sharp than the previous failures, the pain began to recede a bit more quickly, and I accepted the finality of the break up more easily.

If the pain of losing love ever becomes insignificant, I will know that my heart has died.

whatsmynameee · Accepted Answer

The first heartbreak is "usually" the hardest. Reason being because you were naive. You start on a clean slate when you enter your first relationship. You're unaware of romantic pain, trust issues etc. You're just not prepared for the reality of it. When the breakup happens, you are left in shock and in shambles. You don't know how to pick the pieces up and put yourself back together. That's what makes it the hardest. But just like a drawing, the First mistake on a masterpiece absolutely sucks. But after cooling down, you become a little more reserved. More aware of what to watch out for. So when the next small little mistake happens, you are already prepared for it.
But then again, will come a person. You will fall deeply again. And once the breakup happens, that one will hurt more. Especially because you let your guards down again.
However, the moving forward period is a little easier. You know what works for you to help you move forward.
No breakup is easy. But with time, you become customed to accepting that the relationship will not pull through. But you will eventually become better at holding yourself togetherre-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

It depends on you, whether you can move on or wallow in self-pity. I imagine it hurts less the more heart aches you have.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes , especially if you didn’t see it coming , when the person you gave your heart to , decides to turn around and shit on it and betray you. Me personally doesn’t commit to a girl to become single , not my intentions at all , I commit to a girl hoping she is committing to me the same and for the long haul and not the short haul. So heart break can take a long time to get over and can take a long time for you to give your heart to someone new

AviatorTom · Answer

No, every heartbreak is hard, some harder to move on from than others.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

My experience says no. But each story is different, people are different, expectations from the relationship might be different, life lived is different and how it breaks apart might be different. Sorry in advance lol, I don't think anyone of us is "more protected" by any heartbreaks following the first one. But nothing seems linear either, to me.

KrisKris81 · Answer

I think it's more the one that sets the bar for future heartbreak. Or maybe it's the breakthrough that will make you less afraid, though cautious, of future heartbreak. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Does it get easier? Yes, it should. You didn’t experience the first heart break, none of us have, and none of us will experience the last. And the sun will rise, again, and again, and again.

Anonymous · Answer

Every breakup causes some level of heartache, but my second heartache is the one I remember the most because it was so excruciating. I can still clearly recall smashing a glass up the wall and the emotions I experienced at the time, as well as in the days, weeks, and months that followed.

Jay-_- · Answer

It shouldn't be the most painful it should be equally as painful in your next one, if you truly fell for the next person, unless that first break up you gave your all and after that you never allowed yourself to fully give your heart again, which isn't healthy if you want a relationship to last. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

IslaTheWitch · Answer

no... the hardest would be the most painful one...

superchan2011 · Answer

I would think so since it's something you've never experienced before. Then you have to face everything else about a heartbreak as well. The lost hopes, what could've been, the memories of the person themselves. What you guys did have, etc.

AGAM1 · Answer

Just depends where you’re at in that relationship. The first time I ever fell drastically in love yes it was the worst heartbreak till this day my heart still hurts and it has been almost 20 years later

avery58 · Answer

No. That just depends on when you meet the one you'll love the most and if they break your heart.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I kind of feel like any type of heart break will hurt, after all it is also a physical thing, not just an emotional one. And it hurts very bad.

MemeSupreme · Answer

yes it sucks re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (0, 0, 0), justifyLeft

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Yeah if it was real love it will be the hardest one than you will never love like that again so the rest don't hurt as much.

NathanDavis · Answer

I believe that, the most recent might be the most difficult one... because it's the most present one

Nonamez · Answer

Maybe, but I'm much stronger after such heartbreak , now get me if you can 😅🙈re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Beckybooboo · Answer

It's seems my last one was the most painful. I actually didn't start dating for over a year.

katiesmuff · Answer

Yes I think so, but it's also likely to be the one most easy to get over after the shock.

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah it’s just like anything else, the first one is the hardest and it gets a bit easier each time and after awhile you become numb to it all and put up a wall so you don’t get hurt anymore

Alisonqueen · Answer

Yes I had that experience before , it’s so painful most especially when you love that person

glennos89 · Answer

Without a doubt! The first one you will never forget

exitseven · Answer

Not necessarily. How invested in the relationship is the big part of how much it hurts.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

No way... The first doesn't involve kids, a house, etc

ihateTaylorSwift · Answer

You get over the first heartbreak you had once you've experienced  ur last

AmeerX · Answer

No it doesn't getting easierre-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes it's definitely the most painful re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

curious_lady · Answer

No it does not get easier, it depends how much you love someone, how much you trust, how much you invest yourself, it can actually get harder.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd say so. I had a pretty bad second one too, but I think the first was a bit worse.

Anonymous · Answer

Not necessarily, my 6th heart break was the most painful one.

Luopio27 · Answer

It never gets easier!

LiamJHayden · Answer

No idea. I've never had a heartbreak.

Nerdvana · Answer

Yes, for me because I never expected it.

Ironco · Answer

For me it was the third

Liz1990 · Answer

Yes especially when your a teen.

Intheclouds00 · Answer

Yes. Absolutely

TheCoffeeisHot · Answer

Yes I'd say so

Miah06 · Answer

Mine was

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