So would I be wrong to do this?

[Simslover92]

My ex called me and said he wants to visit me and basically Netflix and Chill despite him being "engaged" to a married woman. He said they have an open arrangement.

I am completely over him and don't want to slide back into old habits especially when I really like the new guy but the new guy has other options he's entertaining. So I don't know if I would be wrong to sleep with my ex or not.

I certainly see why people just cut off their exes but I can't seem to cut him off because we were always good friends and I thought we could be good friends again. But he admitted that he can't really be in person with me without kissing me.

This is such a sticky situation and I don't know what to do. My mind and heart is saying don't go there with him again but my downstairs area is saying do it.

I feel like it's not fair to the new guy even though he's talking to other girls. I would feel like a straight up slut to sleep with my ex and then him.

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1 y

I've decided that I am definitely not going down that road with him again. If he wants sex with someone he can either get it from his fiancee or from someone else. I am not stooping that low again. Plus it's not fair to the new guy I'm seeing.

[PeachyPie93]

Don't do it he just is using you as a booty call! I personally don't even get why you still talk to him. You say you are over him but you said he has hurt you by his actions and what he has told you yet you still talk to him and want to fuck him so clearly you are not over him yet. If the new guy isn't committing then find someone better don't go back to old trash. If you don't learn patience you will keep landing in the laps of losers who are smooth talkers but only wanna fuck.

[Simslover92]

I only still talk to him because we were friends for so long before getting together and I thought we could be just friends after the breakup. And I've decided not to go there with him because I truly am over him. I really like the new guy and want to see where it goes.

[WhitneySnow]

Don’t do it! It’s a bad idea on so many levels. Rub off first and then think about it when your downstairs area has calmed down.

[Simslover92]

K thanks. I'll do just that

[WhitneySnow]

Cool

[Purpleronnie]

To be blunt besides a few moments of pleasure I really don’t see what you have to gain. In simple terms your being used but if your happy with the trade-off then fill your boots as the saying goes.


Me personally once I’m emotionally over a woman , especially where there has been some protracted pain and hurt emotionally I’m not going back there ever.. she is basically dead to me

[Simslover92]

I am done emotionally with him. I don't honestly see him that way anymore but he does have a great sex game. But I probably won't go there with him again because I've made too much progress.

[Purpleronnie]

I do admire your honesty , it’s quite un-stereotypical for a woman to even consider the sexual side when the emotional attachment is nulled. That’s typically the man. I guess we are both non-typical in that sense. Didn’t mean. To come across judgmental , it’s truly a personal decision I guess I’m just quite an emotionally deep person and answered from experience rather than answer objectively as I try to

[Simslover92]

No you're fine. You didn't at all. I appreciate you being candid with me.

[ohsheeT]

Don't you dare even think about it don't you even think about it b******* on the open relationship b******* on everything he's coming back into your life to just make you feel better and take you down again it's going to take you another f****** 6 months to get out of it do not do it

[Simslover92]

Thanks. You're right. I will try to stay strong.

[ohsheeT]

No you don't have to try just do it prove to yourself who you are this is the fork in the road right now and this is a growing moment right now in this moment take the right road stand up straighter look at after all this passes you're going to be able to get any guy that you want and you already know this but you have to let all that other stuff go you know did it it's not meant to be you already know that you have to acknowledge that and let it go I know it's kind of hard and all this other you know ways to think about it blah blah blah blah blah but you're just lying to yourself and you already know this too you have to stand back keep yourself a big fat hug and say I love you to yourself everything is going to be all right and you already know that too a new chapter is going to about to start with you just don't jump into it you know gradually grow with it so you can experience new things if you just jump into it then you're not going to get to experience new things things are just going to happen and you'll be stuck in around that way I'm not going to say what's going to happen but just go slow and love it grow with it become it and love yourself because good things are going to happen for you if you allow them to

[DishLady]

Oh my... Run... You're young and have SO many better things to do with your time.

[Drumlin2001]

Do you think your ex will leave his married fiancé to come back to you? What will having sex with him achieve? If your new man can't commit to you it probably tells you what sort of person he is. Find a new new man who actually wants you. You seem to have bad taste in men

[Simslover92]

Very true. You're right and I will.

[Zack-Bann]

there’s a NEW GUY and you’re still wondering if my you should netflix and chill with the ex that still makes you wet all the time and is enough of a bastard that he has no regard for the sanctity of relationships and will hookup with an ex whose seeing someone while he himself is seeing someone else who’s also married?


What answer are you looking for here?


Do you expect there to be a version of this where go see him and everything goes well?


There isn’t


He’s your ex. Cut him off.


You don’t HAVE to go see him just because he asked.


And if you can’t help yourself and just wanna do it anyway. End your current relationship because you’re not ready to move on just yet and need to have your heart broken by that cheater a couple of more times before he’s out of your system

[Account]

You wouldn't be wrong to do this although I am not too sure if their relationship is actually open or if he said so just so he could have the opportunity to sleep with you. But then again I am paranoid about a lot of stuff, although my suspicion has been justified more times than it hasn't.
Personally I could never, but then again I don't do hook ups.

[Account]

Oh I didn't read the part about him being intimate with a married woman. But still my opinion remains I don't think it is a good idea. He will be using you and can you really be certain that the feelings won't come back? I think in the end you will end up being hurt.

[Simslover92]

Thanks. That's true. I probably would. It's probably best to just cut him off.

[Lynx122]

I wouldn't do it but it's up to you. It's not necessarily about right and wrong it's about staying attached to someone who in the long run won't impact your life in a positive way. There will always be problems that come back around.

Personally I like relationships simple and clear we're on the same page and there's no unresolved issues that keep popping up. So that's how I handle things. But this is your life. You can decide for yourself if it's worth it for you.

[Simslover92]

Thank you. I think I won't go down that road again. It took me five months to get over him. I just can't do it again.

[KittygosMeoWW]

I know hard it can be to walk away from an ex but if you keep him around you’ll never move on. He has and he got the shit end of the stick, otherwise he wouldn’t reach out. There’s no benefit for you in this and girl if you don’t leave that man alone he’ll make him your bd… I’m witness to that 🫣.

[Simslover92]

I know. It's so hard to stop talking to him because we were friends for so long way before we got together and I thought we could still be friends after breaking up but I see that that's going to be impossible. I have to let him go. 😔

[Simslover92]

Thank you.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Yes and trust me it hurts now but imagine him being your baby daddy and being non comital. That hurts so bad!

[Simslover92]

Yes thats true.

[virgo2267]

Sweetheart you have to focus on your well being first and foremost… you are young and have every right to do what makes you feel good. But make sure you do it on your own terms… like promise yourself to not get upset about it. I encourage you to live up your steamy opportunity. Both your current and former dudes certainly aren’t having the same feeling a you are beating yourself over

[Simslover92]

Thanks. I certainly do.

[katiesmuff]

Certainly at 33 you are smarter than this sounds. FIRST you know he is involved (open or not) with another person which without a thought should be a big NO! In your own situation your struggling a bit with your new guy which you being a slut by screwing a guy (ex or not) that is in a relationship with someone else certainly isn't going to do anything positive for you either.

[ChicoFromThe305]

My obvious answer would be not to without commitment but like the dude down there said, what's valid is your own form of thinking here

[Simslover92]

Thanks. You are so right.

[Flower7]

This would be the pinnacle of desperation. Why let him use you as a booty call?

[Simslover92]

That's true. You're right it would be.

[Still-alive]

Don't go there with him and block him would be my advice.

[Simslover92]

Thanks for the advice. I think as much as it is going to pain me to do, I need to do that.

[Still-alive]

he's gotta learn some boundaries.

[Simslover92]

That's true he does

[AnonAndrew]

Yes, it would be wrong. He's engaged to someone else.

[PeterLegg91]

Your not officially boyfriend girlfriend yet so your doing nothing wrong, for all you know this new guy might doing or thinking the same thing with ah ex or another girl , your cool Elaine

[Staximus]

If you know you're going to feel bad after doing it then think with your head and not your pussy and don't do it

[Surely]

Why would you want to become the other woman. Since he is engaged to a married woman. Keep your distance!

[DrPepper12]

Go where the Fates & Fortuna lead... Those fickle gods...

[YourExLover69]

Don't go out with him dear. Talk and hang out with single guys like me lol 😜

[Ironco]

You are answering your own question, in your question. You know what to do.

[Anonymous]

well I don't know i remember you saying that you wish you could still be friends tho

[NathanDavis]

stay away from drama...

[exitseven]

He is using you at this point.

[LiamS95]

It's a bad idea.