Break Up & Divorce
2 mo

My ex and I had a bad break up, and I have to stay in contact until some financial stuff is worked out, how should I respond to “how are you?”?

So I moved across the country for my ex after doing long distance for 6 months, I don’t know anyone here. She broke up with me on the way to the place I was planning on proposing. It just got really ugly. And now I am in this state alone, a lot of my friends have recent babies, so they aren’t as available, and I am really struggling.

I unfortunately can’t block her until we fully untangle our finances. She has asked me a few times how I am doing, and the honest answer is that I am doing terrible. Not because I want to get back together, the damage is done there, but I am incredibly alone. I have always been a loner type person, but I have always had the choice to be alone. Right now I have no choice, and I didn’t realize how much that would affect me. I normally respond with “fine”, to those types of questions. But I honestly don’t want her to ease her own conscience, by thinking I am doing well, especially not after how she treated me. Would it be okay to just respond “I’m doing pretty bad”, the next time she asks?

As soon as I can, I am blocking her, but I need to stay in contact and remain civil until we are fully disconnected financially. But she really thinks she did what’s best for me, and I think that justifies in her mind her behavior.
My ex and I had a bad break up, and I have to stay in contact until some financial stuff is worked out, how should I respond to “how are you?”?
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