New study reveals that men are twice as likely to die from "Broken Heart Syndrome" than women. Why do you think that is?

[RingOfFire]

A new study reveals that men are twice as likely to die from "Broken Heart Syndrome" than women *EVEN THOUGH THE CONDITION IS MORE COMMON IN WOMEN*. Why do you think that is?

[Rosexøxø]

I was really close and the third bullet point agrees with my theory.

Basically they may love more intensely or just as intense as women but regardless have the lack of efficient coping mechanisms and emotional support. Not even knowing how to begin to navigate, denying the necessity of it, being embarrassed, pushing it away, not recognizing the importance of it. Etc.

This is what would kill them, their inability to deal with the pain. That’s the bottom line. That pain would be internal so when they do lose the one they loved whether by consequences, misfortune, or natural causes, they will just crush inwardly. Cave in, and so forth.

It happens with women more because they’re quick to love and less likely to suffer and succumb to such a thing because they have the right emotional network (s) in order.

But even IF having that, they may still fall due to the actual painful significance and the lack of their irreplaceable partner. The grief may still be too much to bear.

It will 100% happen to those ladies ALSO who mirror most of the men demographic- in not having ANY support system in place.

Misfortunate all around. Death via broken heart is really soul crushing even to witness second hand… my sympathy with those couples entirely.

[Anonymous]

Yes, because they keep everything inside and never ask for help, and are conditioned to do so. Many don't talk until it's too late. I wish more people grew up in healthy environments that would encourage men to be vulnerable.

[RingOfFire]

Nature designed men to be protectors and providers in a family unit. So their natural instinct is not to show weakness and vulnerability because that doesn't work well to intimidate an attacker. That's where that comes from.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes and no. Who decided being vulnerable (emotionally) equals weak?
Not all of it is biological. It's a societal norm.

That said, wars don't exist because men "don't show weakness", it's the ultimate sign of human vulnerability to be fighting for years just to prove a point.

And the point that's proven, is often simple cockiness. "I'm not weak" yes, you are, because you feel the need to prove yourself when you could've just accepted defeat.
It's trying to assert dominance when it's not needed, which in itself is a sign of weakness.

Vulnerability isn't the issue. Men SHOULD be vulnerable, because the alternative IS weakness.

[pass_the_celery98]

there's a lot of manipulative women out there who get the joy of playing games and enjoying drama. Dating apps, social media, guys on the street hollering at females is not classy but some women and girls love it. A lot of girls I’ve talked to from high school til now in my 30s openly told me they encourage cheating to their female friends, they like hurting guys and most of the time it’s girls with daddy issues. Not all guys and men keep things pent up. But I’ve learned if I’m honest with my feelings right away (I’m weird), if I delay telling her I like her (you lost your chance). In fact a guy shouldn’t say everything on his mind because if she’s cunning, she’ll use it against him one day. I can’t trust females nowadays.

[Opinion Owner]

@pass_the_celery98 truthfully, I'm sorry that's been your experience. It's a very valid reason to feel reluctant to open up. And I know it's like that for many men.

Unfortunately, it's true for women as well, and I think we (women and men) kind of keep reinforcing this behavior by continuously, albeit subconsciously, seeking out people who keep us stuck on such patterns.

Hoping you'll find someone who does, sincerely value your open attitude, as I think a lot more people should.

[grega239]

Yeah has nothing to do with the fact that everyone comes to comfort a woman but won't even think of comforting a man

[Opinion Owner]

@grega239 that must be a cultural thing, because it's very normal where I live for women to comfort men.
In fact, a lot of men I'm engaged with often come to me to talk about things they're dealing with, because they know I'm always available to listen and encourage them to talk.
Those who don't, are more afraid of being judged, then actually being judged.

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

It’s not a cultural thing, though it is a generalization that men won’t comfort another man crying about how an ex hurt him more even if family Court screwed him and his kids over and a multigenerational family business.

In every culture men competed with each other, they still do less so than ever before due to our egalitarian welfare systems, luxuries like air conditioning, and other modern infrastructures.

Back then, also families were bigger, so there were brothers and tons of uncles that could help a man in distress to an extent, but even then not really.

[grega239]

It is biological. You can't fight wars, hunt animals and perform dangerous jobs if you can't control your emotions.

you're Oversimplyfing wars.

Vulnerable men are easy prey

[Whitewulf]

A healthy environment is the furthest from the cause of men keeping their emotions to themselves.
Men don’t show emotion or talk about how much pain they’re in because the moment their woman sees a man cry, by nature she loses respect for his status and attraction. A women does not feel safe and secure around a man that cries or shows emotional instability.
I think partially by nature and some by society. We literally have nobody to talk to.
But let’s get to the real question. Heartbreak usually comes in a man’s life when he gets the unexpected news that she’s leaving. She never talked to him but kept the relationship alive long enough to go through all her levels of emotion until she’s finally done. So when it appears she has moved on and found someone so fast and then drops the bomb on him. So not only does he have to deal with the pain of the breakup he’s seeing her with someone new thinking she was probably cheating. That’s a lot of hurt. I’m going through that right now and it sucks

[Opinion Owner]

@whitewulf In which case you're dealing with the wrong girl. A sincere loving woman wouldn't care if a man cries, she would be secure enough to be there for the both of you. I'm sorry to hear that's what you're going through

[RingOfFire]

@Whitewulf

"Men don’t show emotion or talk about how much pain they’re in because the moment their woman sees a man cry, by nature she loses respect for his status and attraction. A women does not feel safe and secure around a man that cries or shows emotional instability."

I think this is absolutely true. Women will encourage you to show your emotions, tell you it's okay to do so, even cajole you to try to get you to break down. But it's a test not a sincere desire to hear them. If you do let them out, you fail the test and she loses attraction. No matter what they tell you, what you said is accurate. Never let that guard down or you risk losing them in spite of how much they may insist otherwise.

"I think partially by nature and some by society."

Maybe so, but I think nature does the bulk of the work. As I have always stated it on this topic, men are the protectors and providers for the family which is the building block of a human herd. They are the hunters who bring home the bacon. The last thing a hunter needs when he is bagging the Wooly Mammoth to roast on the spit for the community meal is to be distracted by emotions and start crying. Men are programmed by nature and millions of years of evolution to suppress emotions and women want a hunter to provide and protect her and the family not a touchy feely.

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

I’m gonna go out on a limb here and say that quite a lot of men today that are dying from similar symptoms described in this article have been alienated for a decade or more from their children while they were growing up, and thus severing their relationship with their children as adults as well.

I think a lot of men are quiet about how they feel about being screwed over in family court out of their biological children’s lives.

I’ve just never shut up about it because one I bled for this country in combat.

Two: I can beat up most men and I look like it too so I’m not afraid to complain about how I was treated in family court. Any chance I get, I’ll tell anyone.

[Miristheiss]

In divorces women file 70 to 80 percent of the time and 90 percent if she is college educated. Women are often coted for monkey branching and being hypergamous.

In WW2 many women were attacked and ostracized for cozying up with German soldiers during the war.

They are more mercenary like and use relationships as self preservation rather than total devoted love.

[beenherebefore]

When a Man is truly committed I feel that they take relationships way more serious than Women.

[pass_the_celery98]

Obviously and that’s why some women aren’t meant to be in healthy relationships. They pray for a guy who will love them and be loyal at such a young age, God provides it, and then he’s not good enough, he’s freaking me out, I need space. Yes, a female needs space, she shouldn’t feel suffocated. But this is 2025, chivalry is dead, female loyalty is dead also, hence why both genders can’t stand each other.

[RingOfFire]

Yeesh! Both comments sound pretty bleak. 😦

[On_cloud_wine]

I’ve actually witnessed this in real life.. I assume depression makes your immune system weaker

[FunkyMonkee]

Men have to bust ass to find someone, especially someone good!! Women just have to take a walk and they'll get all kinds of offers!!

[contentious]

You have to actually care about people to have a broken heart.

[exitseven]

Guys will tough it out and guys are expected to be strong and get less support from others.

[Gaylordslav]

Only men truly love, women will always have room in their heart for another

[Godihateyou]

Because woman are too busy looking. for the next man to take care of them to die.

[Anonymous]

I guess because lots of men are very emotional.

[Anonymous]

Solution: No woman is worth that unless it’s your mother.

[Jeff51]

I guess we should open up more

[chocolatetwopointo]

bc they’re more sensetive

[Dongie]

I had no idea!