Why are so many couples breaking up almost right after having a baby?

[Anonymous]

[Quigly]

The story of a girl that wants to have a child.

If a girl wants to have a child she has to find a guy with some money. Cause you actually have to have some money if you want to have kids. He has to actually want to have a child since many guys just don't want to have a child. By the time she finds a guy that wants to have a child with the money. He is unlikely to be the guy she would have chosen to be with under different circumstances. But, she is going to Marry him anyway cause she wants to have a child.

In other words, Women don't actually Marry a guy cause they love him. It's all about Money and having a child.

On top of that, many Guys with money end up cheating anyway and/or severe alcoholics. So the ritual of marriage has become nothing more than popping a child out, filing divorce and collecting Child support. They don't even give a guy a chance anymore to prove he isn't one of those other guys.

Nobody really wants Marriage anymore. It's not a Religious institution anyway. Although there is an institution in the bible called Marriage. The institution in America is much more tied to banking and Real Estate than Religion. It's a very corrupted institution.

[overlord337645]

they want the sex part but not the child part its like when you pay for a new car and you realize you have to pay every 3 months a certain amount you want the car but you dont wanna have to pay for it the only thing is with a child you can't just easily get rid of it or sell it because well thats just wrong

[Anonymous]

My guess is a lack of knowledge. while I don't have kids I can definitely say no one taught me just how much it cost to have a child, how many diapers a baby goes through that not including when their sick. And while they taught me how to budget for food etc. they didn't with adult thing like rising a family, never been in sex ed etc.

[alice55]

I looked it yo and it's mostly because of lack of good 50/50 in house task. Which is a weird reasons to break up so early on but well

[melnc]

They wish to live freely, shirking their parental duties, while the heartbreaking reality is that the child pays the price.

[14gurlz2gagonit]

Well, if it's anything like how my mom is with men...

The purpose of getting pregnant is to get that child support check, and that does not require staying in the relationship. It might also explain why all my siblings have different Dads if that means you'll get more money from one child per Dad than multiple children by the same Dad.

I'm not sure about that second part, so how about one of you internet feminists or SIMP's do the math and find out if I'm right...

[Cousin_BrendaTS]

Your disgusting attempt at humor is nothing but hateful hatred towards women, including TS women. It's unacceptable to equate motherhood with financial manipulation, especially when you're pretending to be part of the community you're insulting. As someone with ADD and anxiety, your words exacerbate my struggles, adding to the mental stress caused by constant microagressions. @GagSecurity, this individual is not only violating the TOS but also TS trying to have children with his derogatory remarks and also creating a hostile environment for marginalized users. GaG should be a safe space for me to talk about my feelings. Thank you.

[14gurlz2gagonit]

@Cousin_BrendaTS Your welcome,

And thank you for reminding me of how triggering my microaggressions are or can be when I fail to Pandor to other's safe spaces. Try to be sympathetic to my hetero cis male lived experience and the resulting non-compliance with the status quo of the usual gold diggers that indeed use children just for a ticket to not work and dedicate more time to sex work, which is real work.

Thanks for getting me to slow down and talk with AI about the question that I was pondering. The % is first based off how much the father makes so first and foremost, trapping men with money is of importance. But here is the answer I was looking for...

Yes indeed, there is a financial gain to do this with multiple men because it can equal much more than having multiple kids with just one man. Hopefully this knowledge helps you as well with your own endeavors as a TS trying to get pregnant.

[alice55]

It may not be so much becuase of money but becuase your mom is just ways too high in her expectation one of my old neighbor used to be like your mom she had 5 child with all different father except it was becuase she was never satisfied in her relationship (one worked too much, the other not enough etc... XD)

[DrPepper12]

Parent here! FAFO.

"Kids EXPOSE, NOT CAUSE the fault lines that are a HUGE THREAT to ALL relationships but they are deceptive. They lie just beneath the surface, multitudes of fissures just waiting to be triggered by time & pressure"

A SUPER SMART OBSERVANT HUMAN!!

[ProbablyClueless]

Having a baby is a pretty big stress test for the relationship. Any cracks in the foundation tend to show themselves once y'all have to work together in service of this third, innocent person who didn't ask to be put into the situation.

[NicholasRedone]

Lol the guy turned out to be poor material as a parent or they each just wanted to have a baby to carry in their genes and then as usual the guy takes off and whether amicable or not the woman raises the baby in her image

[NicholasRedone]

What would I know though lol 😆 the deadbeat dad joke of American pop culture films and shows

[NicholasRedone]

Or redneck loser dad stereotype of America lol 😆

[lightbulb27]

I've not seen one do that, so not sure.

Stress and selfishness would come to mind. It's tiring... so their stress minds can't handle anymore.

[SeekerOfTruth007]

Because people are dumb and they don't know what Love is. All they had to begin with is lust, and without real love a nuclear family is impossible.

[beenherebefore]

They don't accept that a relationship inevitably changes after having kids or their relationship stops being a priority.

[Nikki1989]

So many?

I don't know any!

[EmmaMary]

From what source have you heard or seen any of this occurring?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Because when things get serious, shit gets real and you can’t ignore those problems anymore

[Renegade_Sailor]

Because your birth control changes the kind of man you're attracted to, it's incredibly common for a woman to come off BC and find out she is no longer attracted to the man she is with

[KateCrombie]

Maybe overwhelmed after the baby and not able to manage the relationship

[exitseven]

The guy does not want the crushing responsibility so he bails.

[Steve-the-lion]

I noticed this years ago. I think there are two main reasons. Either the man doesn't want the responsibility, or the woman gets obsessed with her baby and starts pushing the man away.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Weird in my country that's one of the reason to stay married

[genericname85]

probably cause they thought having a baby would fix their failed relationship xD

[Anonymous]

Kids cause a lot of stress, especially when you’re new to parenting

[jahaims]

They weren't mature enough for a healthy relationship and the extra stressor points that out faster.

[Anonymous]

Can’t handle the responsibility probably , but if they can’t then they should have not had children to begin with.

[noohair]

I guess we have children having children. hat is what a child would do. Great Question.

[Anonymous]

Black guys do that as they don’t want to spend the money on the child.

[Jeff51]

Don't think it's true

[Godihateyou]

Because they are stupid and weak.

[Anonymous]

they want to be single parents

[Panthero80]

I didn't know this was true.

[Anonymous]

Source?