How do so many couples stay together if having children changes a person so much?

[Anonymous]

For a woman her entire body chemistry changes. What guarantee is there she'll still love the man at the end of it? Both also have to change their mindsets and attitudes. How do they still love each other?

[Apple1996]

Sometimes having kids changes a couple for the better

[mobiusforniner]

Physical changes are just the tip of the iceberg man. Kids are dynamic. Always changing. Just when my wife and I feel like we got a system working, BAM. Kids gain a new interest, learn a bad habit, want something new. It’s never the same

How do we stay together? It’s learning to let go. I know that sounds cliche. Or perhaps too simple. But ultimately that’s what unconditional love is- letting go of YOU want. And sooner you can do that, things start to loosen up and life feels more liberating.

[Anonymous]

I don't know if you've ever been really in love with another person to ask this, but happy couples are usually also deeply connected on a friendship level. Staying together as a family involves more than romantic love and is definitely more profound than any crush in the world. It's not easy because as you said, kids change a lot of things. Everyone has to adapt. Support, reliability, stability and love are the backbone of a family. If you can't imagine spending time with the other unless you're dating, that's not a good foundation for a relationship or having kids with that person.