Why do relationships end after couples have children?

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AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Actually statistically more relationships stay together for the sake of the kids, up to about teenagehood. Once they feel the kids will be able to handle it better, they separate; but many take years to do this because they don't want to hurt the kids. (And some kids, years later as adults, say they wish their parents had just ended it, because living in that environment was worse than any separation would have been.)

But when relationships do end, it can either have nothing to do with the kids and just be about issues between the couple. Or the impetus can be the stress of raising children. It takes a huge amount of emotional and physical energy, and this takes a toll, and takes time and focus away from the romantic partnership. They sometimes feel like they are there just to serve the needs of the kids, so caring for each other as a romantic partner falls by the wayside. Sometimes the kids are used as an avoidance tactic, for dissipating feelings toward each other. And having dedicated time to oneself becomes almost nonexistent. It's also a huge financial burden/cost. Some people say that having kids doesn't cost that much, but it's really a denial of fact. They're justifying their desire to have them, have a family. For many people, raising a family is stressful and exhausting but also ultimately rewarding. But most relationships do end, so it's not really that the children were the cause; it's more that they were collateral damage in the inevitable.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

The work load changes, the stress level changes, and all of a sudden personality matters more than looks and people realize they do not like what they chose.

Googlemyahoo · Accepted Answer

Relationship with who? Each other? Friends? Family?

In my case my brother in law & his wife just don’t like kids. My daughter was a toddler and would approach her while she sat on her phone she’d say “go do something you’re being annoying.” To my 6 year old simply trying to do something with her.

I asked, “Did your aunt say that to you?” Then told my daughter not to waste her time because her phone was more important.

They got up and left. Haven’t really interacted with them since.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

It's much easier to pretend that you are happy when you aren't changing diapers.

MisogynisticPig · Answer

This question is extremely easy to answer, the objective of a relationship between man and woman is reproduction, when this is carried out, the association loses its meaning.

slatyb · Answer

Because children are demanding of both time and resources. This adds stress to a relationship.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Having kids with someone is extremely stressful.

Hardworkingguy · Answer

Not all relationships end. Just the ones that that didn't really have a strong connection or chemistry before the baby arrived

Jamesshinobi · Answer

its nature. we aren't supposed to mate for life

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