Figuratively speaking, how do you see your ex , and what do you think your ex saw you as?

[Anonymous]

My ex wants to be friends with me, but I see him as a 5 day old scar. Sometimes I see it, I mess with it, I make it worst, I try to bandage it up, I pretend it's not there, I cover it up, I forget that it's there and go on with my life, I bump up against it and it hurts, I remember it's there again. I get into a cycle, but it's all out of order. I love him, but I'm not in love with him. I think he sees me as a security blanket, safe, but only wanted when he's upset or bored or alone and wants some comfort. I do want to comfort him. I want to celebrate his accomplishments, but I feel like I can only do that from afar. Every time I get closer, I get stabbed in the heart. Not stabbed in the back, he's the most constant person I've ever communicated with, his action prove that. It's just that every time I think he's done proving his point, he finds another way to express it. His point is that he doesn't love me. (Dont talk about blocking, that has nothing to do with the question and obviously both of you all are ex's. I want to know how you see them figuratively.)

[sawno]

I see her as a true soulmate, someone that if it were possible i'd love to be with. I know she sees me the same way, although she probably won't see me as ready as I got some physical healing to do. If she were to read this and be on the fence in approaching me i'd tell her she should come forward if she wants to make it work, but do so with the full honesty of anything I should still know so that I can forgive and we can move forward.

We had this depth that during our relationship I only experienced with her and haven't found with anyone else since. And while I don't know about the most recent guy she met I knew prior to that she didn't find it in anyone else either. And it was everything, a bond that defied the understanding of reality, a true intellectual match, she's beautiful to me and we were compatible in every way that mattered. I made a checklist when I was younger on what my dream partner would be like and considered it unrealistic, I expected that if I ever met a girl who was an 8 compared to that 10 that i'd have scored an incredible girl. While my ex didn't just tick every box, she added a few.

Its very hard for new people I meet to live up to it, and while I know i'm not stuck on her in a way that nobody new could enter my heart it does mean my standards for a relationship are now really high as she set the bar so high. I can't just settle for someone who is merely pretty and sweet but who I don't have that mental connection with for example to where i have to carry every conversation or things stay surface level. I truly need a mind, body, soul relationship. If one of those is missing I can't see myself last in it in the long term.

[dudeinohio]

I dont care about exes. The only exception is my ex wife, who I have kids with. All my other exes I have no communication with ever.

[Asker]

I ment how you view them after the relationship and how you think they view you with the relationship

[dudeinohio]

Oh. Well, no real grudges against them. Stuff happens.

[Anonymous]

She cheated on me multiple times, forced me to commit suicide, talked trash about me behind my back and misused my pictures and created fake accounts with it.

I don't want that bitch anywhere around me.

[itsannalee]

Used old stuff, who I don’t need it anymore.

[beenherebefore]

I don't remember it was many years ago.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure, I don't have an ex.