Has anyone here ever ruined someone else’s relationship?

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sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I think that I am guilty of that.

When I met my late boyfriend he was seeing someone else.

In fact she introduced us to each other. She invited both of us to come over to her place and help her with a Christmas project she needed help with.

We were instantly attracted to each other. It took a while before he cut his ties with her, but she was absolutely livid about our relationship.

I didn't know who he was to her because she told me that they were friends.🤷🏼‍♀️

smashleyy · Accepted Answer

Yeah

OlderAndWiser · Answer

No, I have never done that, but I have saved someone else's relationship. In 1981, I worked with a nurse who was pretty, nice, and attractive as a potential partner . . . except that she was married. . . to someone who I knew and respected. One night, our crew went out for a drink after work and, at the end of the evening, she and I were the only ones there. When I walked her to her car, she suddenly kissed me and asked me to take her back to my apartment. I told her it was a tempting offer but that she needed to go home and work on her marriage.

I recently did an online check on them and discovered that he died a few years ago. They has remained married to the end.

AviatorTom · Answer

Not that I know of. If I did, it was not intentional.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Hmmmm. I don't know. For some reason a lot of married women seem drawn to me. I've never really found a common theme. Looks? Fitness? Personality? So I can't say why exactly. But married women pursue me a lot more often than I'd ever thought possible. I have never initiated any interaction with a married woman. But I have fucked more than several of them.

I've thought about this. Did I "ruin their relationship". I don't think so. I think their marriages were already in shambles. They pursued me, I didn't pursue them. In every case, they were relentless even when I openly held them at arm's length.

Why did they do it? If you listen to them...

Their husbands ignore them.
Their husbands don't give them the mental stimulation they want.
Their husbands are either bad in bed or lacking in sex drive.
They don't respect their husbands. He's weak, out of shape, stupid, lacking ambition, lazy, controlling, mean, alcoholic, hooked on coke, cheating on her, etc.
She's embarrassed / humiliated to be seen on her husband's arm.
Basically she married the wrong guy and she feels the clock ticking away.
They want to feel "THAT" feeling again before it's gone forever.

Is any of that true? I think so. At least some of it in their minds. Are they blameless or complicit in their situation? Oh complicit for sure. But you never get that side of the story. Women are not generally strong on accountability.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Unintentionally yes. When I was in my early 20's I had a crush on a cashier that I worked with. She was 30. I didn't know I was being obvious about it at all. She was dating another co-worker and he picked up on it and got mad at me when I literally said Happy Valentine's day to her. lol. I didn't get her a card or flowers or anything.

I actually said it to all the girls to be nice. Well this cashier kisses me on the cheek and says at least someone remembered. Her boyfriend forgot and he yelled at me for making him look dumb. I just stayed out of it. Well after an hour of him being a douche about it, she finally yelled at him to leave me alone. I literally looked at the both of them and said are you guys at all happy acting like this? lol She cried, said no, and broke up with him.

It was the most immature breakup I have ever seen till this day. I didn't mean for any of it to happen, and no nothing happened with me and the cashier. That was the day I realized they were both insane lol

juliammm · Answer

This would be to deny the fact that each person has free will. Subjecting someone to temptation does not make you responsible for the fact that they succumb to it. If he succumbs to it, it’s because there was a lack that you filled. In conclusion, you freed people and didn’t break up a union.

RavVid · Answer

I never have because I'm a guy. Girls have tried to ruin mine with my girl. But then my girlfriend girl friends came to respect me and would tell my girlfriend to be realistic. So it can go both ways.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Never intentionally.

But, I've have been connected with/contributed to circumstances that flew further and further out of hand that ultimately destroyed relationships. The role of those factors in the relationship falling apart isn't always very clear.

The worst situations I've gotten into in that domain have been a result of other people forcing themselves into the relationship with the best of intentions.

genericname85 · Answer

i guess one person would say that. i basically told his girlfriend he was cheating on her. i don't see it as "me" ruining his relationship tho. he ruined it by cheating. and she was a good friend of mine before he met her so bros for hoes doesn't count in this case.

whosnumber_1 · Answer

I have definitely pursued woman that were in relationships. Not women that were totally committed but I'm relationships where she wasn't happy. I actually got some satisfaction in showing them what it's like to date an attentive person, that they are worthy of more

MisterWack · Answer

Nope, that’s not my place to mess around in and if I messed it up I would try to fix it rather than leave it broken.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Not that I know of, but based on my sexual history, it probably didn't help other relationships.

Angelbabylips · Answer

I would think that would be difficult if two people are in love.

Anonymous · Answer

I probably have, in fact, done that. I used to have sex with married women a lot when I was younger, and I am sure that ruined some of their marriages and relationships. I'm ashamed that I ever did that, and I'm very sorry for it.

NathanDavis · Answer

not me... but I don't even get involved in the relationships of others

molonski2 · Answer

Not setting out to , unintentionally, absolutely yes.

Orion84 · Answer

I'm going to plead the 5th on this question... 🫢

Sevenpointfive · Answer

probably many times. i'm not a good person i don't think.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I have not. But you said "anyone" which kind of means anybody and I'm sure it has happened

Anonymous · Answer

I got a guy in a lot of trouble with his wife once, not on purpose though...

LC75LC71 · Answer

I wanted to once, but didn't intervene. I took the high road and moved on.

robocop666 · Answer

Yes a guy told everything about something he did so I told her and she dumped him. He deserved that.

Jerre · Answer

No, I never have.

krin_m · Answer

Thankfully, no.

XXblack88 · Answer

Not that I'm aware of

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Nope..

Celticwolf78 · Answer

No but I have saved a few

AgentG111 · Answer

Absolutely!

Jeff51 · Answer

Noo.

Sammy098 · Answer

Nope

Grilo · Answer

No I have never

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