What was the final straw that made you leave your long‑term partner?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my future ex to be for 17 years, I've , well we have both been going through it for along time just like anyone's onve upon a time it was you and me, the ONLY LIFE I LOVE AND WANT TO BE WITH love story THAT FADED FAR FAR AWAY, THE SPARK IS GONE AND A HOUSE THAT'S NOT A HOME THAT FEELS LIKE A HELL ON EARTH. I DESERVE HAPPINESS, EVERY SOUL DESERVES THAT. JUST THE SHORT NEAR FUTURE THOUGHT I picture ME struggling with the disposition, hell even the new view , im scared of having noone to hold, to hug and kiss goodbye, having that one to check in with that morning nd on the way home. I have to for myself. The only option is NEW LIFE the rest is said to be left in the rear view. Thank god he's on my side, and showers me with strength daily. This week I didn't just feel the blow and been grieving while still living under one roof, but for 2 long lost souls that cared for one another for what feels like a lifetime before. I want him also to find peace and happiness like myself. I just wish I loved myself more instead I sacrificed my needs and wants to please every one else but not for me.

[Purpleronnie]

It sounds to me like the relationship ended emotionally a long time ago, and you’re only now catching up to that reality. The fact you’re grieving while still living together, talking about a “new life,” and focusing on what you’ll miss rather than whether you should stay suggests you’ve already decided to leave.

What I notice most is that you seem torn between the pain of staying and the fear of being alone. That’s a very different question from whether the relationship is working. From what you’ve written, the relationship itself doesn’t sound like the thing you’re struggling to let go of—it’s the comfort, routine, and companionship that came with it.

My impression is that the final straw wasn’t a specific event. It was reaching the point where the fear of staying unhappy became greater than the fear of leaving.

[Anonymous]

So you’re the one who is unhappy. He’s probably unhappy because you’re making him unhappy w your emotional rollercoaster. Another women picking her happiness over everything else. This is why men don’t want to get married or be in a relationship. I don’t blame them.

[Nikki1989]

Some men have the attitude that only they deserve to be happy. They can't see outside their tiny bubble.

[Nikki1989]

Read the anonymous comment that clarifies my point 100%.