Why do guys keep "back pocket girls"?

[Anonymous]

I have a feeling this guy is using me as a back pocket girl.

One would think that the main reason a guy does this is to get some..but we have never slept together, he hasn't even mentioned it. The reason why I think he's just stringing me along is because he has not suggested commitment/exclusivity and calls me when it's convenient for him. If he's busy he couldn't care less where I am or how I've been. He's free Friday night? He'll call me and say 'let's go out nowww". I don't feel important to him, just feel like an option.

So he's not getting any sex from me, what does he want from me?!

[sandyblue]

ok one I feel like I know you and if it is you

call me now!

if not sorry!1

but yeah because he' waitin for the next thing. I feel like a broken record but he gonna kep stringing you along as long as you allow it.for some men and this is rare.being sexuall is really emotional for them.i was chillin with a dude-we had sex every now and then and mange nevr to kiiss me once because of the emotional bond.

but either way he's getting what he want from you and your getting nothing

dont settle for that .find someone else.

and wen it comes to men something really isn't better than noing

that something is stressing you at .wrapping you in confusuion and wen you get to the conclusion you your gonna get hurt at the end .

the longer you let it drag out the worst you feel

always belive your time is precious

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice. I also think he's wasting my time..thinking I need to break it off

[Asker]

And I don't think I know you :p

[Anonymous]

I do it because I'm not sure that the primary girl I'm dating is going to be exclusive with me. I might have a first pick of girl, but I still like the second one. I don't always sleep with a girl if she's in the back pocket, I just want to see her enough to let her know I'm interested.

If the first girl doesn't pan out, that means I can move on to the second. A lot of the time, the first girl flakes out or doesn't want to be my girlfriend, so sometimes the second girl wins in the end.

Guys have to look at all their options, because a lot of girls are flakes. There's nothing wrong with a girl dating multiple guys, as long as she isn't sleeping around either being slutty. Once you're exclusive with someone, you let the other person know that you found somebody else.

[Asker]

Thanks for the insight

[Opinion Owner]

I honestly didn't wish I had to have first, second and third options. My main complaint with dating girls my age (in their 20's) is that they flake out so frequently. Hot and cold games, not showing up for dates. If a guy only has one girl in his pocket (front, back or otherwise! lol) there's a good chance he won't be going out on a date that week. It is especially bad in big cities, where girls have lots of dates they can go on as well! Sad, but true. I wish I could just find one girl. :)

[RiceBall]

Well I've said this time and time again, but not all guys have sex on their minds, maybe he just enjoys your company on his free time? I think that you maybe thinking in to this a bit too much.. has he ever rejected seeing you when you ask him to?

[Asker]

He has never straight up rejected me. But he cancels a lot -.- that's mainly why I think he's got something else more important going on

[RiceBall]

you can always just ask what's up? I mean rather thinking in to it so much you can get the answer from the best person!