Ex wants to stay friends but makes no effort?

[Anonymous]

i broke up with my ex boyfriend, a few months back, he says he wants to stay friends, but yet he makes no effort in contacting me after the first few weeks after break up. Now I am always the one initiating the contact, whether it be via email, txt or msn. However, he does always reply to me like 95% of the time, and we do meet up from time to time. I;m not sure if he really meant it when he said he wanted ot be friends, or if it was just something to make me feel better

[PsychMike]

I told my ex I wanted to be friends because I did, but I needed some time away from her to actually make that happen. It killed me to have to basically ignore her and cut off contact even though I wanted to talk to her. Just ask him straight up if it makes him uncomfortable to talk to you and stay friends, maybe he changed his mind since the break up. The best way to find out what a guy is thinking is to ask him, we are blunt creatures and we will only let you know how we are feeling if you ask, sorry lol.

[Asker]

Yeh, I suppose I should ask him if he honestly does really wnat to be friends like he says. Thanks! =)

[highfive123]

If you want to be friends with him, and you broke up with him, then YOU need to show him that you still care and want to be friends with him! No offense but, he is not a rag doll that will start calling you to hang out after you dumped him! I am more than sure he feels like sh*t, and is just trying to live his life and move on, but in reality...if you want him in your life, you need to make the effort because you got rid of him by dumping him...sorry but that's the truth!

[Reeses-pieces777]

yeah, sometimes guys just say 'let's be friends' to mean, 'lets be civil and not fight and go crazy' . I mean, my ex said that and I told him to 'screw off' so...

just stop talking to him and think about yourself, distract yoruself with stuff that will make you feel better. for me, I went out with my close friends, went shopping, partied, w/e. w/e to take your mind off of it.

[cstellar]

When guys say "we can still be friends" I think that, in a way, they mean it, but it's pretty hard actually staying friends with an ex, especially right after a break up. So, when he said that it as probably a little of both.

[BirdofParadise]

You broke up with him and he is probably still hurting from that. Give him some space and stop initiating contact. If he truly wants to be friends then he will get back in touch when he is ready.

[Asker]

Well, the thing is, I wasn't the one who wanted the break-up.... he was the one who suggested it....

[melvinm]

I think he is undecided about you, on one hand it indicates that he likes you and that makes him respond to your txt's but on the other hand he is unsure about how to handle the situation.

Give him some time and he will sort it out himself, but do bear in in mind that its hard for guys to be just friends after a relationship in general.

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[a400m-runner]

He may need time to heal over this also

he may be just taking a step back away from you as a means to recoup his losses.

give it sometime or let him go for about a month or so and he should be fine