How do I know if step mom is cheating on my dad?

[Anonymous]

my dad is truckdriver so he is away a lot. right now he starting his own company so that he doesn't have to travel anymore. anyway my step mom is always home and she never works. sometimes she would leave the house looking good and smelling nice and come back later with nothing. usually she goes out for groceries or something. she is very attractive for her age. MILF if you will. but I'm just always worried if she gonna hurt my dad and I would kill her if she cheats on my dad. sometimes me and her talk and she casually mentions a divorce Because of my dads job. I don't know should I follow her one of this times? how do I make sure my dad doesn't get hurt? also she doesn't have any friends so she can't go for a coffee with her girlfriend or something like that. and from what she told me about her past it seems like she used to be promiscious and she loves sex. any advice would be appreciated. thanks

[snowboarder720]

wow, very tough situation. lets look at the options...

If you did follow her and she wasn't doing anything bad or seeing another guy, she just had to leave for some legitimate reason you'd feel stupid and a big waste of time...

If she happens to be seeing another guy and you catch her without her knowing, what could you do? I think calling her out would be unnecessary because then she wouldn't trust you because you admitted to following her. Telling your dad, wouldn't be a very good idea because then not only will he probably have a mental breakdown, he'll confront your step mom and then he'll have to explain that he found out from you by following her.

It seems to me that it's a lose-lose either way you play your cards. Whether that's trying to help out your dad or not.

I don't know your dad overly well to judge if he'd appreciate you getting in between their relationship. I know your just trying to help your dad, and it would be bad to see his feelings get hurt...

I'd stay out of it. It will ONLY bring more drama into the situation. Eventually something will happen and someone will find out the truth between him and her, and when that happens you won't blame yourself OR they won't have you to blame.

Just keep close between them both, keep talking to your step mom and see if she'll fess up. Let time settle with this relationship.

I hope things work out for you and your family.

[Asker]

thanks man. yea I kinda think its non of my business but then again he is my dad. and I hate that woman so bad. I'll just see how it pans out. I hope she isn't cheating because that would involve a lot of unnecessary drama.

[snowboarder720]

no problem. I understand your feelings about your dad, it sounds tough. What can you do? ya know.

[martyfellow]

Check for hickeys, my man, check for hickeys. No need to follow her, unless you're good at that sort of thing. Once promiscuous, always that way, without doubt. Assume the worst.. But he married her, he knew what she was like, so don't get too angry about it. He probably won't be surprised.

[Asker]

i think she might be too old and mature for hickeys

[martyfellow]

I doubt one is ever that old and mature!

[blackrose21]

follow her or have a friend follow her- it you catch her than you know for sure she's cheating, and if you don't catch her doing anything than she's probably not cheating- that is kinda weird that she goes out and doesn't have any friends...

[bapmo]

Well, don't follow her because that is stalking. It won't make anything better.

Don't hurt her because that is assault. It won't make anything better.

Sit down with her. Don't lose your cool. Talk to her.

Sit down with your dad. Don't lose your cool. Talk to him.

Just stay under control. Don't let the problem compound by making a stupid decision.

[Catherinebeez]

Tell her what you think about it, and make your point clear that you don't want her to hurt your dad ( Be angry, yell, scream , it should work :p )

[Luv2run]

Ask her what she did today like everyday ,

[Anonymous]

Time to do a little sleuthing.