If you start to call and text a lot and you do it first most of the time will that cause a person (boyfriend in this case) to become complacent and lazy? If so, what are some things you can do to make him not so complacent? I don't want to play games. Should I start to make him work hard for things again? Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years now and I feel like lately I'm the one calling first and texting first. Lately he doesn't reply to many of my texts and he doesn't call back like he says he will and he doesn't plan dates like he use to. I feel like he's become lazy and probably feels like he doesn't have to work as hard as he use to because I giving him things, I'm calling and texting him. I also feel like I don't give him a chance to because I usually do it first (call, etc) I don't want to be the only one doing this anymore and I feel like I need to back off and let him put more effort. he's a great guy and he is sweet but lately he's become complacent and lazy. We spent 4 great years together and made it through hardships and he's been there and stayed with me when I was at my lowest and I did the same for him. How should I handle the situation with out playing games? I don't really want to talk to him about it too much because I don't think talking about things all the time over and over again work, I believe in actions. I believe actions change a situation. But I will bring it to his attention, I just don't want to have a long talk about it. So what can I do on my end (action wise) that will cause him to work harder and put more effort?
My boyfriend has been complacent lately, what can I do?
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