One of the biggest complaints is that men stop trying. They get too comfortable & aren’t like they were in the beginning. I’m grateful for my boyfriend he is the first hasn’t gotten complacent. We’ve dated a year & are over the honey moon phase. He’s made it clear (w/o me even bringing it up) he never wants to stop trying & always wants to be better for me/himself & it shows. I love him so much. He tells me I have so much potential & wishes I would see that. He wants nothing but the best for me. He challenges me. I know 1 shouldn't stop trying in a relationship. But he admits he thinks I’ve been complacent. says I sleep too much & need to do more things that I don’t want to do as it just makes anyone a better person overall. Haven’t gained weight- I work OT every week. I like to sleep 9-10 hours a night but so? We go on dates. I cook, clean, definitely do my share in this relationship. I just feel like I’m not good enough status wise. He has a degree, I don’t. He’s more ambitious than me. I’ve told him I’ve rarely trusted anyone & I’m comfortable where I can be happy. We’ve had much fun so far. trips, outings, adventures, our sex life is great & frequent (sometimes twice a day & I initiate a lot of it) He’s told me that all his ex gfs have gotten complacent and are just happy with who they are what they’re doing instead of “getting just one percent better everyday” which is a saying he says which I love because 1 percent is very doable. I also don’t want to have to live life though this way constantly.. or should I? I just want to be happy and enjoy the little things. I feel like I won’t live up to his standards. I take care of myself am not getting lazy but I feel like he always will want more. When is enough enough & one can just enjoy life together. What does this mean, a status thing? is this normal? Maybe just need to be more grateful I found someone who wants the best for me. can’t help but think I’m not good enough, never will be & it’s a lot of pressure.
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Also we are in our 30s and have talked about marriage and kids in our future
I think the fact that you initiate sex and the fact that he picks at you are both kind of red flags. He left all those exes for basically no reason "muh 1%" or whatever the hell. He might just be a monkey-brancher. I don't trust it, but I'm kind of a pessimist, so take that with a grain of salt.
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I feel you are expecting too much out of yourself.
Most people get complacent in a relationship over time
He means Married. Settled. Got a man or woman, Done ✅
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Becoming complacent is totally different from finding something that makes you happy and sticking with it.
So have a conversation with him about it
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