One of the biggest complaints is that men stop trying. They get too comfortable & aren’t like they were in the beginning. grateful for my boyfriend he is the first hasn’t gotten complacent. We’ve dated a year & are over the honey moon phase. He’s made it clear (w/o me even bringing it up) he never wants to stop trying & always wants to be better for me/himself & it shows. I love him so much. He tells me I have so much potential & wishes I would see that. He wants nothing but the best for me. He challenges me. I know 1 shouldn't stop trying in a relationship. But he admits he thinks I’ve been complacent. says I sleep too much & need to do more things that I don’t want to do as it just makes anyone a better person overall. Haven’t gained weight- I work OT every week. I like to sleep 9-10 hours a night but so? We go on dates. I cook, clean, definitely do my share in this relationship. I just feel like I’m not good enough status wise. He has a degree, I don’t. He’s more ambitious than me. I’ve told him I’ve never trusted anyone & I’m rarely comfortable around someone where I can be happy. We’ve had much fun so far. trips, outings, adventures, our sex life is great & frequent (sometimes twice a day & I initiate a lot of it) He’s told me that his ex gfs have gotten complacent & are just happy with who they are what they’re doing instead of “getting just 1 percent better everyday” which is a saying he says & I love because 1 percent is very doable. I also don’t want to have to live life though this way constantly.. or should I? I just want to be happy and enjoy the little things. I feel like I won’t live up to his standards. I take care of myself am not getting lazy but I feel like he always will want more. When is enough enough & one can enjoy life together. What does this mean, a status thing? is this normal? Maybe just need to be more grateful I found someone who wants the best for me. can’t help but think I’m not good enough, never will be & it’s a lot of pressure.
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I wonder if this stems from his mother. She has such high standards for everything and has so much energy as well and is always on the move. Almost like he wants me to be like her 😂 that woman can work 10 hours, get home, clean the house, cook an extravagant dinner, play a sport in the evening then go out until 2am and the next day do it all over again. All while being social and happy. It’s all so exhausting to me!
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Tell him to ease up a little. I can understand where he's coming from, but I think he's taking it a bit too far. Yes, we should all have high standards, but there is such a thing as relaxation.
I wonder if this stems from his mother. She has such high standards for everything and has so much energy as well and is always on the move. Almost like he wants me to be like her 😂 that woman can work 10 hours, get home, clean the house, cook an extravagant dinner, play a sport in the evening then go out until 2am and the next day do it all over again. All while being social and happy. It’s all so exhausting to me!
And I still clean and cook and all that But I’m not as energized about it
Wow. Yeah, I don't know. Not everyone is the same. And that's totally OK! I hope he realizes that, though. He just needs to remember that you're a person, not a machine!
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