Girlfriend hangs out with Ex boyfriend's family

[VeteranSoldier]

is that awkward for anyone else or am I tripping out over nothing.

[RedSmartie]

I don't see what the big deal is as long as she and the ex boyfriend are never alone together. If you're with someone and you get along with their family, that's great. But just because you break up doesn't mean you should stop hanging out with other people that you met through them.

In high school I had a boyfriend who introduced me to his friends and I introduced him to my friends. Our breakup was messy but we still hung out with each others' friends. It was weird and everyone thought so but we liked the people we met so we didn't stop seeing them because we were no longer seeing each other. It's like that.

Also, my most recent ex is still angry with me (and it's been over a year) but his mom still comes into my restaurant to eat and we're very cordial. He hates it but there's nowhere else in town that will prepare a veggie burger so there isn't much he can do.

Long story short, just because a girl has contact with the friends and family of an ex doesn't mean she will go back to him or even consider it. Usually a good relationship with the family is a reason to stay so if she got out anyway then she doesn't want to go back.

[lumos]

This is not a black and white subject, so it's really difficult to say. Especially since you have given us no background info. For instance, if she goes way back with his family, I wouldn't be at all surprised if she didn't want to cut ties with them. Also, I wouldn't think of it as a big deal if she genuinely is close with them. But I'd start getting red flags if she would hang out there all the time, like several days a week, and if she'd keep talking about it constantly. If you do start getting huge red flags from it, then maybe you should sit down and talk to her about it. But don't be aggressive about it, and don't immediately suspect that she's cheating on you. Just casually ask her what's going on.

[snowangle]

I don't think you have any reason to worry. Some girls just really fall in love with peoples' families. Doesn't mean she still has feelings for the guy. :) I still hang out with my ex's family, but only because his cousin has been my close friend since before we ever dated.

[backspace]

Me and my ex girlfriend were together for eight years so our family ties were quite extensive. Even now I visit her parents place and she visits my grand parents place. Of course we have some sort non verbal agreement that we don't drag any kind of significant others if we have them when we meet or talk about any thing strange.

The thing is my ex was part of my life for a good part of a decade and we shared and did a lot of things together so there's bound to situations when we see each other and see people from our past and that's just something my girlfriend (if I ever have another) is going to have to accept that. The same way I have to accept that my girlfriends have their own pasts.

So I would say that if she's seeing her ex's family it's not necessarily a bad thing.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the situation, like in mine for instance. My ex cheated, lied and took my son away from me after 7yrs of me raising him basically by myself. Come to find out she was hanging out with some of my friends and family, even living with my cousin and sleeping with one of my friends and I suspect she slept with another friend and possibly slept with 2 of my cousins. I suspect because they almost confessed but chickened out when they saw I was getting upset. I'm just saying if your ex was a piece of shit then when you break up it should be also breaking up with your friends and family. With all that said, my friends and family are the Fd up ones for still talking to her. Now I have few new friends and don't talk to most my family.

[Salamisand]

It’s weird nd should not be done. Unless it’s like they don’t live in the same house. If so then it’s weird asf. Also ignore nonsense people write. Notice it’s women trying to defend that weird behavior. It’s their lack of ability to make choices or be respectful. But it doesn’t depend on the living situation. If the parents live separate then I guess if fine with it but should have a say. The parents will go after their own interest and may cause her to cheat as she gives in to peer pressure. Just to know that some comments are full of it. I asked the same thing but vice versa and got completely different answer. Don’t let them manipulate you. It’s about respect. If you want you can meet the parents outside of the house or just text them. There’s no need for random visits. It’s just a way of bumping into ex cause they most likely didn’t move on and don’t respect you. I’d say if you’re still doing that then just go back to your ex. Unbelievable the manipulation some people will try to do then double standard it up. If it doesn’t feel right with you talk to he or she about it. If she cares about relationship then she will adhere to the condition. The potential for messy and for seen events is too great. If people can cheat without doing that then doing that increases the chance. But it depends but 90 percent of the time it’s not okay.

[TajMahal90]

That’s something I’m going through rn…I don’t have a problem with it…. but it does bother me from time to time …the ex family might be throwing a party or an event…She goes and you’re not invited? Any event they have you’re not invited…but I wouldn’t go anyways but just saying.. my girl is close to the ex’s sister.. and she came around me a few times…but me and the ex’s sister’s boyfriend got cool…he invited me to their wedding…but my girlfriend doesn’t want me to go…like sudden that be like a red flag…

[JanuaryX]

If they (the family and the girl) have been friends before the boyfriend came along so yeah it's normal. But if she met the family because of the boyfriend, and still hangs out with them, then I do find it a bit weird. :\

[LoveAdvocate]

I don’t think that means she is cheating, now although it be possible, I doubt it. What I would say is if you are planning to marry this woman and she become a part of your family at that point would you be okay with that situation still? For me personally I think about the future and I would not be friends with an exes family because I would make it weird for whoever I date in the future

[why-makoto-kun]

That is awkward, but it depends mostly on whether or not the ex is around. I'm friends with a family member's ex, but we keep him out of it so it's not awkward.

Can you elaborate how she does that?

[CocoC321]

I don't think its a big deal. they are people...different from the boyfriend. maybe she got really close with the mom or the sister. she isn't cheating on you, just chill

[jessik424]

That's kinda awkward... unless she knew the family before she started dating him. But it's still weird...

[QueenBeatris]

as long as your boyfriend ain't hanging out with her,dont worry about it,they may just have a close bond with her,its ok.

[Anonymous]

It's awkward.

If she will get closer to his family, it might be that you'll be really tripping into something.

[Anonymous]

I think that is a bit inappropriate and might be a sign that she isn't really over him.

[Anonymous]

It has happen to me ! We acctully got back together , and were getting married next week !