My ex girlfriend is sick. Should I bring her soup, or just leave her alone?

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My ex girlfriend is sick, and I want to get back together with her. We talk a few times a week, and see each other about once a week. I feel there is a huge shot of us getting back together. I'm seeing her in two days, but should I bring her soup and a flower if she stays home from school, or just leave her alone? I have already wished her well, which she really appreciated!

standUP · Accepted Answer

Dude you bring her the soup and a healthy drink as a friend ONLY ! build that relationship up without any other motives in mind. Go in the mindset that she is not going to be your girl.

If you knew that would you still bring it to her? your answer to that is your answer what you should do.

greggeczi · Accepted Answer

if you are both still on good and talking terms then yes a bowl of soup and a teddy bear will make her happy.

I know if I was still on good terms with my ex-I would-but we don't talk to one another really.

Best of luck buddy-you have a good heart to think like this.

COCOCHANEL · Accepted Answer

yes ! bring her soup that is so sweet?

it's the thought that counts and even if it's not homemade she will feel touched by the fact that you care. it will probably help to bring you two back together. good luck?

Babeegirlxo · Accepted Answer

it would be sweet, if you are still together. Depending on the reasons you broke up I would just wait to see her when you go to the movies. I think you should just give her space until you see her...

moistycakes · Accepted Answer

I think it's a nice gesture. Maybe not the flower though, unless you definitely know she would love that. But all in all if someone did that for me I would be beyond flattered. :)

Anonymous · Answer

You seem overly excited about getting back together with her. I bet she’s the one who broke up with you and you want her back. If that’s the case you shouldn’t be doing anything for her if you have any self respect.

However a part of me feels you. Because I’ve been there before. You should at least ask her if she would like some soup before you bring it over. If she says yes great. But if she’s says no it could be a sign she doesn’t want to accept any favors from you to give off the wrong impression.

Anyway I have never once in my entire life had a woman respectfully break up with me. Ever. All of them had “their reasons” of course but they had their minds clearly made up that they could see their future without me. Given I was no longer of any value I was now expendable or worse. I was even treated like I was less than human once for no justified reason (I am not kidding).

So I do not do anything nice anymore for exes. I just say “well nice knowing you” and if they reach out to me then we proceed on MY terms if they broke up with me.

Miristheiss · Answer

Do nothing.

She is your ex. Just get on with your life and quit contacting her.

How do you even know she is sick? Why is there that much contact and interaction?

Cut contact with her. Move forward, quit looking backwards.

Why did you two break up and why do you think you two will get back together?

Anonymous · Answer

Leave her alone.  She's a big girl; she can take care of herself.  Save your time and energy for a girl who wants to be with you.  Don't even try to get back together with her... once it's over, it's over.

AnonGuy · Answer

Why do you even care about her? Leave her alone. Move on.

TheThingALing · Answer

You were in lover category and are now in friends category. Y'all broke up for a reason, stop investing more time in what has already proven unsuccessful

Anonymous · Answer

So much fail. She is your friend at the moment. That is all.  She isn't your girlfriend. So treat her like she is *just a friend*. Period.

stepyo99 · Answer

Bro, you're wasting your precious time that you aren't ever going to get back trying to get back together with your ex. Move on.

Anonymous · Answer

If she's still sick when you're going to go over there, maybe make sure she still wants you over and simply offer to nurse her back to health. Even if you don't end up getting back together, you're still friends. Friends are there for each other. :)

flowergal101 · Answer

If you bring her some soup, any friend would do that...I'm sure she would find it sweet. A flower is suggestive but that's up to you how she would interpret that :)

DextroShade · Answer

She's just using you bro. Dangling the possibility of getting back together is how she gets you to do things like this for her without having to put out. Stop simping and move on with your life.

AshBrown · Answer

If you can do it with a clear conscience and no hidden motive, then there is no harm.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do you even want to get back with her? If she dumped you, wanting to get back with her is pathetic. No, just leave her be.

mattclark242 · Answer

bring her soup. if your not with any one else and on good terms then maybe go see her if not just let it be.

spartan55 · Answer

Whatever you do will likely be wrong, just prepare yourself for that.

molonski2 · Answer

Take the soup man - what possible harm can it do?

IknowthatIdontKnow09 · Answer

I not an expert in relationship but i question myself if be Going to be soup from a restaurant or prepared by you?

dominique916 · Answer

Soup but no flower. Don't come on too strong. Just soup is thoughtful enough.

Anonymous · Answer

Hmm... Well you could take that risk, and bring her soup. But give her, space as you do it. Like, tell her you're bringing it, hug her wish her well and go on about your day as much as you'd want to sit around and talk, let the appreciation flow through her. (: now, if he asks you to stay, then stay of course.

AmazingAlly · Answer

Yeah you should she will recognize that you care about her

Anonymous · Answer

If you don't plan on getting back together then treat her as if she's just one of your other girl friends in that case just to leave her alone. If not then yes, she'd probably feel grateful you brought her soup and that she knows you still really do care about her.

DiegoO · Answer

I don't know man. What's up with her family? If she gets sicker, despite you giving her medicine or whatever; her family may think you're behind her health condition. Contact her family!

Anonymous · Answer

You should bring her that soup and flowers just as a caring friend.

jshm2 · Answer

She's your ex for a reason, dumbass. If she wanted back, she would reach out.

Anonymous · Answer

i would bring her the soup and a new teddy bear..  my boyfriend did that for me and I thought it was really sweet ..

exitseven · Answer

Bring the soup if you think she will like it. Don't be weird about it.

boo17 · Answer

If you really love this girl, it doesnt even mean you have to love her any more than a friend, then i think it would be a sweet gesture that would make her adore you. It may just make you one step closer to getting back together

Anonymous · Answer

Bring her soup and a teddy bear. It's better than a flower because it lasts.

__delilhaismyname · Answer

In my opinion you should she might have a diffeent perspective about you after that witch is good! Do it, it will increase your shot at getting her back

thesouthernfangirl · Answer

If you want to get back together, I think you definitely should! You sound sweet!

Actor3 · Answer

As long that she is not sick of you. Just leave her alone until she calls you.

Anonymous · Answer

If there is a huge chance of you getting back together and you think she'd be perfectly okay with it and actually appreciate it, then I say: go for it! :)

stephanieb3460 · Answer

Show her that you care! I think you should bring her that soup :)

Anonymous · Answer

Well it depends on how it ended. If you broke up with her then she may still love you. If she broke up with you then I wouldn't because she probably thinks your being clingy and annoying.

Anonymous · Answer

If she is sick she might be kinda moody, so I would try not to push her or anything. Definitely ask her if she is getting any better or something like that.

sharpy_luv · Answer

Bring her flowers and see what she does/says. If you are confident with the results, keep going!!!!

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on who she is. Some girls like being taking care of and others don't. Just give her a call and ask.

Anonymous · Answer

You could if you wanted to it just shows that you care

yaddayaddayadda02 · Answer

Go for it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Taeyeon0424 · Answer

Sure, show her that you care ^^ good luck!

maiez · Answer

it definitely can't hurt

Anonymous · Answer

In 2 days she might be well and won't need it

jjj101010 · Answer

She’s ur ex, leave her alone

ranjanchickfight · Answer

Buy her soup

maryJoeseph · Answer

I think you should buy a soap and go to her

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

Bring her soup

Ewizabethkelly · Answer

Bring her soup and her favorite stuff!!! ;)

Midsilo · Answer

Soup and a flower

Anonymous · Answer

Leave her alone

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