She says she's sick. Should I contact her or wait for her to contact me?

[Anonymous]

I've been talking to a girl and she says she was sick. I kinda ended it with a call me when you feel better kinda message and haven't contacted her since that was about 5 days ago. She claims to have the flu and even posted it on Facebook but I just don't quite by it. I study biology and her "Flu" doesn't sound nearly as unbearable as it should be. But even if she is lying and just needed some space she was nice enough to lie to protect my feelings. So I was just wondering if I should check up on her or wait for her to call me. I mean she's an adult and I'm sure she can take care of herself and i don't want to pester her especially if she is sick. I've extended my help when she first told me she was sick but I've had a bad history of leaving her in the past so I'm treading lightly. I've known her for 5 years and we've both rejected others at time. Her trust of me isn't the strongest thing in the world right now. Should I text her or just let her be? I think she'll be find if I just leave her alone for now but I don't want to think that I don't care and that I'm a player. Despite how I treat her and women in general my popularity with women tends to get me the player label fairly easily. So should I check up on her or leave her alone and wait for her to call or text again? If it matters it would have been date 5 and we'd been extremely sexual in the past but this time around we've been taking things very slow we've hugged and held each other and spent whole dates slyly touching each other but I tried not to push to hard for sex. The sexual intent was there though. I've been trying to regain her trust but at times because I left her in the past for dumb reasons. I feel like she may just be using me this time to get over her last relationship. Which if she is it's fine I know plenty of other great girls so it wouldn't hurt too bad if she was. But I like her I just don't want to smother her.

[yesmylove]

How is having the flu keepin her from texting you or calling you? Makes no sense to me. Anyways just text her and ask her how she is doing, it has been 5 days so she should be better now.

[Asker]

Well no I asked her out and that was her excuse for not going I just haven't messaged her since. She isn't ignoring my texts I don't think. We tend not to text much throughout the week it takes away from face to face conversations.

[yesmylove]

Oh okay got u. Well did she say "we'll hang out when I get better?"

[Asker]

No but she rarely texts anything more than a few words anymore. Back when things were better she would text all day long. These days she'll text first but only say like two words I'll reply and she'll send back another couple words rarely a full sentences or not text at all despite starting the conversation. She used to wait days before replying but stopped doing that when I left the third time. But if I ever ask to see her she shows up most of the time and acts really excited to see me. She's super engaged in person. So I'm thinking she's taken someone's bad advice on how to get your ex back when in reality she could've just asked. I've left her quite a few times in the past just because of odd stuff like this. She's awesome in person but do anything over the phone and it's just a huge headache waiting to happen. I just want her to act normal again.

[city23]

Surely some people can handle flu differently. Unless its man flu of course. I would just give her a text sayin you hope she is feeling beta or along those lines.

[rosepetal14]

just text and say you're thinking of her and ask how she's feeling. keep it casual.