She Says She Is Sick, A Day In Advanced Of Our 4th Date Plans?

[Anonymous]

I met her ~3 weeks ago, she was immediately interested, pursued me, etc..

I was too busy to meet up within a few days, and set plans for ~1 week away.
She was initiating texts daily, expressing lots of interest, some light sexting.

We went on our first date, which didn't start too well, but ended at my place and we had great sex.

She continues to blow up my phone, we set another date for ~1 week away.

She basically begs me to come sooner, so, since I had the time, I seen her 3-4 days later.
We hook up again, cuddle, etc..

By this time she's sending me partially nude photos unprompted, lots of flirting & sexting.

Third date happens (e. g., three in one week), it was basically a repeat of date #2, but, she wasn't in a good mood, and the underlying feelings weren't there.
We did have sex.

Following that, she continued to initiate texts, but they were toned down (still some flirting and sexting).

She tells me she wants me to be more "dominant" in bed, suggesting a particular dominant sex position to try.
I said "we'll try it, but am not sure it's for me".

Texts fizzles more, though we had a date planned for ~ 1 week after our 3rd date, for once she gets back home. She's in another city, babysitting her nephew while her brother is away.

She slowly warmed up again, though not as enthusiastic in the first two weeks.

She tells me her brother might be delayed getting home, which a day later results in our Friday date being cancelled (she just implied it, didn't re-schedule).

On Wednesday or Thursday afternoon we set a new date for Sunday.

Thursday night she's telling me how much she cannot wait to stay over & have sex Sunday night.
Then, Friday was the first day she didn't text me since first meeting (I didn't text either).

Woke up today (Saturday) to a message from her saying she has the flu (possibly implying our date tomorrow is off).
Haven't replied yet.
Two possibly cancelled dates in a week.

Is she flaking?
Should I back away? Or try to re-schedule?

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Re-posted because I accidentally posted in the wrong section (Sexuality), and cannot delete that first post for 24 hrs.

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"She tells me her brother might be delayed getting home, which a day later results in our Friday date being cancelled (she just implied it, didn't re-schedule)."

She didn't offer the re-schedule. I mentioned it a day later, which she said yes to.

I wasn't a fan of the way she cancelled our Friday plans (i. e., implying it, didn't say "I cannot make it back, but can we try for when I do get home?"), though I haven't expressed it.

Felt a bit like she was taking my time for granted.

[Bethany22]

Text her back saying to let you know when she is feeling better and is able to go on another date

[Asker]

Thank you, I went with this.

Turns out she has bronchitis, which means it'll probably be 5-7 days after antibiotics.

However, she ignored my message about postponing our date til she felt better.
Instead, she re-iterated that she didn't feel good.

At this point I'm going to pull back, and wait to see how it goes.

[Bethany22]

Sounds like a good idea

[LarryTheLunarLunatic]

time granted... welll

I don't really think it stops with that. I would ponder that more.

[Asker]

Yup, by that I mean it felt disrespectful/inconsiderate, and like she feels she can jerk me around.

[LarryTheLunarLunatic]

The cost of those messages to end in a crash is opportunity wasted, yes your time was wasted, as you had an opportunity to use ur energy elsewhere

[Asker]

"The cost of those messages to end in a crash is opportunity wasted, yes your time was wasted, as you had an opportunity to use ur energy elsewhere"

This is true.
Fortunately in this case, I was able to make positive use of the time elsewhere, just not how I was looking forward to using it.