Would you come over if your girlfriend was sick?

[missmary]

right now I have the flue. I expected my boyfriend to come over or just say that he would come this week. I told him I needed Advil last night and that I wanted to go to the mall to get it. he did not even asked if he could do something. right now I starting to think that I love him more then he loves me. Am I overreacting or what?

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+1 y

he said that he expected that my family would help me.

[MrOracle]

I always visited my girl when she was sick, and brought her stuff if she needed it, but I usually didn't stay very long, because when you're sick, what you need most of all is REST, and not conversation. I always tried to visit at least once a day.

Now, there was a time when I was about to go on a band trip, and I COULD NOT be sick, so I didn't visit her before I left. I did call her several times, and she knew why, and understood. If I had just started a new job, or something like that where calling in sick would look really bad, I would probably stay away too, not because I wanted to but because of the situation.

It sounds to me like this is more of a communication issue than anything.

[HandsomeRaj]

If my girlfriend were sick then I'd be by her side all the while and do what work I require to do while being around her unless something important calls me to go out and complete the work. But I'd be in touch.

Not offering to get you medicines or even accompany you to the mall doesn't sound too good. I wouldn't do that.

Talk to him about it without being judgemental, maybe something else will come up. Flu can be contaigeous and that could be a reason why he's kept off. Justified though I wouldn't bother about it (I have a strong constitution too so it's ok)

[Anonymous]

Don't jump to conclusions based on just this. I want my boyfriend (and most everyone else) to leave me alone when I'm sick, actually. It depends, probably, on what he thinks people like when they're sick. If he is personally like me, he may have thought that not bothering you was the best thing. Also, if you're sick ... there's not really a point in spreading it to others. Limiting who you come in contact with is good for everyone, including elderly people and small children out there.

[Anonymous]

I don't know if it's about overreacting. Some people go overboard to help people, other people don't think about it. You'd either have to talk to him about it or take him as he is. I know a lof of guys that would still see their girl if she was sick though.

[Opinion Owner]

lol true but that's a lame thing to say... just an excuse from him I think. What tone did he use?

[QueenBeatris]

he should have been more considerate..my guy will ask and bring me soup or advil if I don't have any

[joystickhappy]

Would I be there for her when she needs me...YEAH! I wouldn't let you go to the mall because you're sick, and you shouldn't be up and moving, plus you might get others sick, but I'd gladly get you some Advil, and while I was at it I would bring back a stuffed animal to help you feel better. Feel better soon BTW, I hate being sick, and I know that someone being there can make a HUGE difference.

[missmary]

thank you so much that attitude I want on him!

[joystickhappy]

Even if your family helps you, that's not the main point. The main point is that you wanted to see him when you felt sick and down. I think he should want to see you when you're sick no matter what.

[TheDigitalSaint]

It depends upon how busy I am. Some weeks a I work a lot and don't get to see a girlfriend even if I'd like to. Although I wouldn't mind dropping by to get her what she needs, I'd also sometimes expect her to depend upon friends and family if she was truly too sick to leave the house.

Outside of this one case, how does he treat you otherwise? Also, is he the type that gets really fearful of germs? Some people are really capable of major avoidance when another sick person is in the picture.

[missmary]

when he is in the mood its oke. he gets angry very quick and stays mad for a long time at me when I said something he didn't like. I supported him when he was sick so am am annoyed. he told me he loves me today but did not show it

[TheDigitalSaint]

You know him better than I do. The question you need to ask yourself, is if he is good to you more than he avoids you or fights with you. Trust your gut, whatever it is telling you, whether it means breaking up or trying to work on the issues you two have.

[PoeticNinja]

Yes, you are overacting. You're sick. Do you think he wants to catch the flu? Hell no.

It's not about who loves who more, you're f***ing sick. Wait till you get better.

You can't EXPECT him to come over.

[Catie101]

my ex did when I had the flu, he kissed me too, then he got the flu...

[dan87]

without trying to defend him then he would have a point about your family but he could have still done the job

[dan87]

i'd make sure I was there to make her feel better and if there was anything I could do no matter how little or big I would do it

[Prof_Don]

If my girlfriend was sick...i'd do what I can within my means to help her.

A guy blowing off his girlfriend being sick, w/o offering to help...this sounds selfish of him to do! :-X

[PoeticNinja]

No, it's not. How can you say that though? - I mean, the guy doesn't want to catch it. Pretty legitimate reason to stay away.

[Prof_Don]

Asking an "anything else you want me to do, honey?"...is something he could've done.

[Xx_DRE_xX]

plenty of times I've came to see my girlfriend sick and still kiss her on the lips.

[Anonymous]

Of course. I would make sure she's OK and ask her if she needs anything maybe bring her a teddy bear or something to cheer her up and some soup.

[missmary]

can you be my boyfriend please?

[Opinion Owner]

lol I wish.

[HandsomeRaj]

Dump him, I'm sure the girls will agree on this.

[Yeahhbro]

ewwww cutties (or however you spell that)

[Yeahhbro]

cooties*