i know that nc should be about healing, not manipulating anyone and it worked great deal for me cause i don't feel hurt as i did when i started it. and i'm not trying to play mind-games with him, i just wanted both of us to cool down and not to talk to each other for a while.
so my question is this - has nc ever worked for you and how long did it take?
- yes, nc worked for me after a month or two
- yes, nc worked for me after 2-4 months
- yes, nc worked for me after 4+ months
- no, it never worked for me
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The NC rule is made to help you get over someone, not to get them back. If a girl goes into NC, i'll act like a gentleman and leave her alone. At that point i take the NC as a "i don't want anything to do with you", so i react just the same: I don't care what she does, what's happening, where is she going and with whom. NC is made to help you realize that life without the other person will still go on.
So it's 2 options you have:
you want to get over, so you use the NC.
you want that person and try and contact. I don't see why you should wait to see if the other person does something. Who knows maybe he thinks the same "why isn't she calling me" "will she ever call". You never know.