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Debunking Social Norms: Girls Asking Out Guys (Page 2)
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No insight was needed. I already know that some people prefer women asking guys out, the other way around, or it doesn't matter.
We've grown as a society to become accustomed to new ways of life which aren't threatening or emasculating at all.
I think people should also understand that some like it and some don't like it (or don't care) the same goes for marriage, you can go look up female marriage proposals on YouTube if you don't believe that girls can propose without difficulty.
I typically make the first move but if a woman beat me to it and asked me out I wouldn't be offended. I'd be flattered. I don't think that it is 'wrong' for a woman to ask a guy out. I just prefer to make the first move I am a bit old school when it comes to that. But If the girl asked me out, I wouldn't think anything negative about it. Maybe I was too caught up in my own head to catch her signals or whatever. Life is too short to worry about these things.
Exactly ! The way you are mentioning it sounds more logic. If the two had something together like chemistry , or eye contact , or a lot of stuff going on and both is interested in each other but still hasn't been told between the two of you then that's the que for both. But it's not old school , it's kind of better for the boy to step in.
If I like a girl I am going to make the first move. I have no problem doing so. The worst thing that is going to happen is she tells you no. But I am sure she felt flattered that she was approached in a respectful manner though. I don't get why some guys are so scared of hearing no. @FlutteringFeelings
I'm so socially anxious, I love anyone who takes the iniative in pretty much anything cx
gender doesn't have much to do with it imo--Some people have that assertive skill and some don't.
I've seen it happen, especially in high schools nowadays, but I don't mind. Hell, if a girl was to ask a guy out, all good. Just a bit of a switch and its not all that different.
I've done this before, I've asked a guy on a date and he said yes, and end of the story haha :)
Asking me out is one thing, but I'm gonna be the one proposing if it ever gets to that point.
you have my permission to do a bit but know your place!
lol
Problem is that guys who want you to ask them out are guys you wouldn't want anyway. Those so called beta guys.
This is a site for advice on dating and betas overflow here. Naturally, you'll get a skewed result when posting a poll.
If you want to insult the whole male community of gag, please, do not do so anonymous.
Sorry, but I'm not interested in whiny beta girls who are too cowardly to take the initiative, and would rather blame the guys for her own lack of ovaries.
I'd actually disagree and say those are precisely the guys you should be dating. the ultra alpha male guys might seem more testosterone filled and attractive, but they do not make good boyfriend material. Those are "players" that girls like yourself find so alpha and hot, that care only about whats between your legs and will dump you in a month and move onto his next conquest.
Akso, you can't lump the entire male gender into 2 distinct groups. Most men fall in the middle, myself included. I'm not feminine, passive, or a follower by any stretch, but im also not headstrong, roided out, sociopathic don juan either because i think those types of guys are bigger douche bags than the girls whom the screw over do.
@KeeperofMee @Maverickj When you put a mirror in front of someone to show them how ugly they look and they throw a hissy fit, it just proves you're telling the truth.
If someone tried to insult me by telling me: "You're a baldie!" I wouldn't flinch because I know I'm not bald. But you betas are getting your panties in a bunch because you know there is truth to my words and that hurts your feelings.
Asking a girl out is like basic step one of basic steps you have to do to prove you're masculine. Initiative. And you guys, are betas. Cowards. Pussies. I don't know how else to put it.
@kholland65 I wasn't making a distinct dichotomy, I was just insulting you by calling you wimps. Does the word wimp sound better?
i disagree guys who can't handle being asked out are the guys i wouldn't want. and since they can't respecter you for it they really shouldn't be guys you'd want. I've gone over all this in my response. but your view is not just insulting to men, its really demeaning to women.
I totally agree with you , I just think a boy who cannot stand up for himself and confront a girl he is interested in is being a chicken. Asking a boy out is the girl just asking for her emotions to just be toyed around with. It makes no sense at all , a girl asking a guy out?
@Azara I am not talking about men who can't handle being asked out when I say "alpha". I am talking about men who don't give a shit whether you ask them out or not. They don't need you to ask, because they ask girls they find attractive all the time. So if you want a guy like that, you just flirt. You don't need to ask out. If you can be his girl is entirely his choice.
girls need to understand that asking a guy out is no guarantee of success. so don't cry if you're rejected. also, if a guy is showing zero interest... he's probably not interested.
also, unless the woman plans to happily be the breaddwinner, a woman proposing to a man is fairly messed up.
Messed up? How so?
because commitment should be offered, or not. not asked for. women are protected and provided for in marriage. hence why the man should propose, or no proposal.
Why is the woman proposing to the man messed up in any way? Why does it matter? YOU prefer the man to be the provider and protector, that doesn't mean everyone does.
a man having a wife is being protected and provided for. what exactly is it you think relationships are about. sex and money?
anyhow plenty of women ARE bread winners, its gone up like 50% in the last few years.
loling at all the mangina and bitch downvotes haha
It's because you are being a prick. If a woman wants to ask a man to marry her, and/or a man wants his woman to ask him, it's their own prerogative. It's fine to not want a girl to ask you, but to tell others how to live their lives when they aren't hurting anyone is wrong.
lolol. funny. and idiotic.
I agree with you ! It's a guy's part to ask a for out.
Point blank , period ! .
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I've never actually asked, I've always though guy's would be slightly put off or intimidated by it. Nice take :)
Glad you liked it. Any ideas for the next one?
if they're put off isn't that kind of a turn off?
and intimnidating.. what do you mean,. I've heard this a lot but im not sure how people are using it bc like if you ask it means you def like him.. so why would it be intimidating?
I love when women make the first move. It shows that she's interested, that's so hot. It's nice to be wanted.
Most guys are super impressed with a woman making the first move. There might be dissension on that, but usually when a woman asks a man out, the answer is rarely no. :)
Fuck gender roles. Anyone should be able to ask anyone out. Some commenters seem to understand this as "guys can wait for girls to ask them out" while really anyone ready should go for it.
Most guys I've asked say they prefer to be approached than to approach.
True.
no problem with a girl asking a guy out... I would really appreciate it personally.. It's different when it comes to a marriage proposal though !
if a girl do this to me, i must be lucky but in my opinion it should be guy the one will ask a girl out
why?
i'm really too shy to ask a girl out
Exactly , it makes more sense for the guy to pursue. The girl has no clue and most of the time wants to rush into something due to physical appearance. You can look at someone , and say "okay I want to ask him out because he's cute ".
Girl walks up to guy : "do you want to go out with me ".
It's something that has to be role played , let's think about it.. What if the girl wasn't attractive , not attractive at all ! So basically she's just setting herself up for humiliation because you're not attracted to her , of course you're not going to say yes.
So I agree with you , it's fine for a girl to be interested perhaps take a step further maybe on saying hi first , introducing herself.. But asking a guy out is going way too far.
@FlutteringFeelings but the guy will also feel humiliated if a girl won't say yes... i asked a few girls but although they dont give me straight "no". but they are show signs that they are not really into me... for so many years I've been single i dont even know how to ask a girl out... its frustrating
Asking out is one thing, and I would agree with it. Asking to marry, no.
I tried to ask out my crush but he always ignored me or made excuses so I stopped trying with him. Mostly I just let guys approach me though, it's easier.
I dont ask them out. I asked a guy to have sex with me instead. 😇
I love it when girls make the first move. Great take.