It’s a moment every girl knows and dreads. You notice you have a new text from that super cute guy you’ve been chatting with ever since you swiped right last week. You start imaging the perfect first date you’ll be going on, full of shy glances and soulful stares. And then you see it; yet another “Hey, how’s it going?”.
Online dating has led to some awesome advances when it comes to meeting prospective partners, but one serious downside is there is no surefire way to get from the girl on his screen to the girl in his arms. We all have a thousand stories about that guy we’ve been texting nonstop until he suddenly ghosts for no reason. While there may not be a foolproof solution, there are definitely a few ways you can step over that hurdle and make the fantasy date a reality.
1. If you find yourself texting this guy for 8 hours every day, learning all about his favorite TV shows and crazy exs and beloved childhood pets, STOP.
I know it seems like you’re getting to know each other, but that is what the first date is for. If you skip right past that to the “already know everything about each other” step without ever actually meeting, you may find yourself skipping even further forward, to the “break-up” step.
2. When you’re chatting, start mentioning a few activities that you would enjoy.
Maybe a restaurant or bar you’ve been hearing good things about or a movie you can’t wait to see. Hopefully, he’ll pick up on the hint and ask if you want to try that bar or see that movie with him. And, best part, you’re guaranteed a date you’ll actually like rather than forcing him to have to guess the perfect spot.
3. ASK HIM OUT YOURSELF.
Would Mindy Kaling, or Lena Dunham, or Beyonce wait around for some guy to finally ask them out on a real date?
It’s 2015 ladies, take the leap. The worst thing that could happen is he can say no, and you just saved yourself a few more weeks of texting leading to nothing.
So there you go. Hopefully a few of these ghosts will turn into real boys and you’ll find yourself sitting across from one at a romantic table for two soon!