12 Thoughts I Have When I've Been Ghosted (Page 2)

[Calex]

It's happened. The relationship fizzled slowly. It sucks because the way she acted around me at the beginning completely doesn't match the way she acted in the end. I wish she could be honest and say it up front, but it sounds like she was afraid of that or something.

[S0ph5t3R]

I am in the same situation as you! He clearly liked me and did weird, suspicious stuff until Christmas break. He even made plans for us to meet up, but he bailed without a word... For that reason, it doesn't make sense why he'd ghost because he doesn't like me anymore or whatever...
Just saying that I understand you... Hopes up! =D

[cherryxox]

@S0ph5t3R sounds exactly like my situation he bailed right after Christmas break

[Rogue2]

Yeah, I've been ghosted. She never said why. But all in all, ghosting is just the coward's way out.

[Krillanr]

After reading this... I'm still not sure I know what ghosting is.
Is it when they don't contact you again?

I have friends online who don't contact me, and I don't contact them, but if some certain thing is happening, or one of us happen to think of the other, we'll contact the other person.

It's like that list of family members, you know they are there, but you have no actual reason to contact them unless there is a family reunion or someone has died or something.

[PinkF]

LOL I'm dealing with this as we speak.

It hurts. Like why can't he be up front and say "leave me alone I don't want you"

He has been ignoring my message all. day. I blame myself for being boring, a shitty lay, and unattractive.

[red324]

Most people are only boring in the beginning cause they're to embarrassed to show their true personality.

[Anonymous]

Maybe I should stop giving up my pussy to Chad Thundercock mother fuckers.

cf.girlsaskguys.com/.../...a-ac87-b429f719977e.jpg

[myTake Owner]

I don't know who Chad Thundercock is, but he looks pretty cute in that picture. I'm assuming he's an asshole?

[Opinion Owner]

Know your meme

https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/chad-thundercock

[likelyOK]

Yeah but he doesn't have to look like as good as this guy does, I got played once by someone who was an introvert and shy and not all athletic, creeps are out there. People fly under your radiator that you can be talking to for MONTHS

[KDA20]

I don't think I have ever ghosted anybody I try to be straight with people - Have I ever being ghosted - It is like you wrote that take just about me , I am exactly like that with a girl I like when things are going south and there is radio silence.

[nemer26]

It's happened to me. And it's usual when I say hey is this all this is? Because if so fine just tell me so I can limit my emotions, or remove myself from the situation. It sucks, then you over think and over analyze. And it hurts.

[ThisDudeHere]

I can admit that I once went dark with a girl I was chatting with. Since it has now been several months, I'm assuming she wasn't ever really interested since she hadn't made an attempt to contact again.

[KawaiiPie67]

Looking back i think a few guys did this to me before. i thought they had just moved on to other people or didn't see me as important enough, so I didn't message anymore!

[KawaiiPie67]

I did reply a few times to them and never got a message back, but I honestly thought they were with other girls.

[ThisDudeHere]

@KawaiiPie67 well in my case I stopped contacting because we had been chatting for a few months and there was this slight problem in my opinion - if I were to continue on chatting as friendly as I did, then she'd just assume that I would have wanted nothing more than that - friendship. So the logical choice would be to ask her out in order to make my intentions clear. But the issue was that I had no job so going on dates was out of the picture. Thus asking her out would have been a pointless thing to do.

So I instead just ghosted.

[KawaiiPie67]

But... why not just tell her u don't want a relationship? Or just stay really casual friends?

[ThisDudeHere]

@KawaiiPie67 because I started the chat with the intention of getting to know her better. Not to just befriend her. Back then it didn't occur to me that I should acquire a source of income first.

[lumos]

You don't need a job in order to go on dates. You don't have to spend money on dates.

[Ivanafoster1212]

@lumos this is so true... If you really want to go on a date with a girl you will make it happen with or without money. If he doesn't like you cause you have no income atm she's dumb.

[Ivanafoster1212]

*she

[ThisDudeHere]

@Ivanafoster1212 I find it hard to believe that a girl would date anyone without a job.

[Ivanafoster1212]

As long as he is trying to get a job and is determined then its okay. There's a difference between a guy who dosen't have a job cause he just doesn't want one, and a guy who doesn't have one but he has been searching and handing out resumes and hoping to hear back from people and has plans and goals for his future.

[ThisDudeHere]

@Ivanafoster1212 even if I am the later, I still don't think I'm desireable enough on the dating market. So I did her a favor in my opinion.

[LittleSally]

Yeah, it happens.
Any smart person would lower their expectations of what a person should look like and raise their expectations of what KIND of a person your next date should be.

[Angelina25]

I've been ghosted before. It wasn't a date or anything.
It was a friend or so I thought we were.
Well, at least I didn't pretend to be someone I'm not.

[BertMacklinFBI]

i hope people realize that ghost or ghosting is a thing, before people started using it to reference other people suddenly disappearing, which made the title of this post so fucking confusing lol.

[Deft_maiden]

I have been ghosted and have ghosted. It sucks all around but I take it in stride.. Tomorrow is another day 👍🏼

[Anonymous]

This is awesome!! I have just realized I've been ghosted by a guy I was falling for. It hurts so bad too. I have been reacting exactly like you described on each image thanks for this. It's what I need right now in my life 💗 Great Take

[Anonymous]

I suffer from depression and ghosting for me is usually when I'm hitting a hard depressive cycle. Times when i just feel ugly and unlovable, and thus deeming anyone naive enough to find me worthy as too good for me.

[Blonde401]

Are you the ghoster or the ghostee? I have depression too, same ugly and unlovable feelings but I'd never ghost anyone but I've been ghosted more than enough :/ just confirms that I'm ugly and unlovable.

[Opinion Owner]

@Blonde401 I'm the ghoster. I cloister myself, avoid friends, ignore responsibilities and disappear from new romances. During those cycles i feel like I'm ruining everybody's lives i touch so i disengage.

[CaliSoccerFella]

@Blonde401

don't you dare say you are ugly and unlovable...
you;re anti that!

[phil2]

If I was ever ghosted I would just move on, and I would feel a bit lonely at first but I would have hope for a new person.

[orphan]

its a lot easier to do nothing than to inform her:

"ill text u sometime within the next six months for sex"

[myTake Owner]

well maybe you could at least tell her you aren't looking for a relationship. Maybe she's down for a casual hookup, you never know.. but it's best to say something, otherwise she could start getting clingy and crazy (just sayin...)

[orphan]

i agree completely. however, people are reluctant to let others down explicitly.

[cherryxox]

Exactly why if you're smart you never reply to their text again... and then suddenly they're begging to have you back lol. Honestly the amount of guys that have tried disappearing on me when we hadn't even had sex yet only to come back months later like dude did you expect me to sit around waiting for you for two months.

[ZellRocx666]

Omg, I love this take, I also have some thoughts like these sometimes lol

[ConsultantIsBack]

I ghosted someone once. And reading this reminds me what an asshole move that was and re-commit to myself to never do it again!

Great take :)

[Moose2coolvargas]

How do you accidentally block someone, what a crock

[myTake Owner]

It's pretty easy on an iPhone - but generally is just an excuse we come up with when our minds start racing looking for excuses on why they never text back.

[Moose2coolvargas]

I think that it's the woman is going crazy inside that she likes you so much she can't or doesn't want to communicate

[Transigence]

Been ghosted, but I already had my shields up so I was okay. If she ever cares to find out, she's been ghosted, too.